Jobs are niche and likely to be something that is self paced with A LOT of interpersonal support or menial, if you determine their best medication also tends to make them a hazard. It’s rough, but many people find the attention necessary to hold or do high skilled or dangerous work isn’t possible with meds, although this is not always the case.
Most people I know do not hold full time jobs or have ones that are not gig based. My mom is the exception, but mind you, she has had her Sx (Symptoms) stabilized for years. Before that, she was duped into MLM’s, Self-Help coaching, and several other positions before settling with a retail gig with sales and technical skills training. All of this was only possible after dialing in meds, and this took years. Medication recommendations really need to come from a M.D Psyche. before anyone can give you a recommendation, as things that don’t work especially after 3-6 months of trial (this is normal) are variable on a case by case basis.
Planning a future, via kids, housing, the works, should include full-time unemployment and spare discretionary funds or extended family networks that you cannot overstress if your partner keeps having decompensation episodes. Consider what security measures you may need to keep children safe, including daycare, nannying services with a pick-up schedule not reliant on your partner, and full separate accommodation or care via a self-funded seclusion for your children. My dad did all of this and more for us when my mother wasn’t able to take care of us, and it’s only through a small miracle that we didn’t end up going into the foster care system, which was a real possibility. I still have MH issues of my own from witnessing some of the behaviors and Tx from my mother toward others and myself when she was decompensating. Otherwise a secondary guardianship via other family members would have been how we were raised if my mother continued to be unable to care for herself.
In short, you must be prepared to take on the full responsibility of being a single parent, sole income, AND legal advocate for your partner if you get married OR pay someone to do it. In our case, my dad did all of the above with multiple children and running several businesses. This was and is not the case of many kids I met in group therapy who came from impoverished backgrounds, directly related to their parents not having lucrative jobs (one having severe MI at a minimum) OR good business skills/family networks.
My family wasn’t rich by any stretch but being incredibly handy (food, housing, and mechanics/electronics wise) means we always paid less to build, repair, or make things that we wouldn’t have otherwise been able to afford with my mom’s issues. The only “rich” thing we had was a nanny part-time during a few years of our lives when my mom was comatose from the number of meds she was on. Emo BB and Nana Ellie were two people other than my grandparents that I can credit for keeping all of my siblings safe, cared for, and fed while my dad worked 100 hour weeks and liaised with legal and medical counsel for my mom. This wasn’t cheap and I know some of our opportunities (and my mom’s life goals) were squandered due to the extra expense of needing such involved childcare, with no extra money for things like museums, sports,camps, learning languages, or instruments, ect. There wasn’t such a thing as dire poverty for us, but for many less savvy or poor that didn’t own houses, fix their own cars, or rebuild older machines/houses, these things weren’t even dreamed of, let alone looked after. The stereotype of trailer park/mobile home based poverty with broken cars and dirty windows and an overgrown lawn exists for a reason.