This is what I wish more people would take to heart. It is focused on those with significant health issues, and mental illness is exactly that, isn’t it? Even if your child is no longer a child.
http://raisingwarriorstogether.com/how-to-love-a-family-with-a-medically-complex-child/
That is a very nice article. I agree with the paragraph about specific invitations. My relationship with my adult daughter improved dramatically when I stopped asking “anything you need?” and started asking for specific things like: “open the door and take your dinner plate” or “let’s go walk the dogs for 15 minutes”. It took me almost 2 years to figure out that she couldn’t answer general questions like “what can I do for you?”, but could say yes or no to a specific question.