I have a close friend who was diagnosed with schizophrenia – I need advice from those who might understand what’s going on with him.
I, myself, have social anxiety, but as a pair we get on really well.
He spent a few years in wards from which I didn’t see him. Then he was allowed to meet once a week. Then had more and more freedom. This was great, we’d meet up every week, he’d communicate better than me (I hate answering the phone to anyone due to social anxiety). Anyway, things were fine, then he was granted his own place to live without care – full responsibility. Since this, he’s gradually got worse and worse.
From forcefully pushing his girlfriend (who also has the condition) in reply to her stabbing him, to ending up with a short suspended prison sentence, to falling out with his step mother and father (who he’d reunited with for the first time a year earlier). Basically, he’s all over the place.
I doubt he is taking his medication (this I don’t know), he is definitely taking cannabis, and probably other things like steroids, cocaine and alcohol.
He had a child with the girlfriend mentioned above, due to them getting at each other and falling out a lot, she put a restraining order on him, meaning he cannot see the baby.
Anyway, as a close friend, I feel it’s important not just for me to see my best mate, but for him not to end up going down this sad route. But, I’m not sure what to do and I have a few questions that you might be able to answer.
- Is this behaviour normal when not receiving care
- How can people around him help?
- Why would he not be responding to me (feels as though he is ignoring me)
- He tried contacting me sporadically and then immediately disappears when I try to reply a day later
- He’s active on Facebook (on and off), but hasn’t opened or replied to my messages, and I believe come others have had the same issue.
Others seem to be as confused as me with some of his actions. Such as getting back with the girlfriend who he couldn’t stand a week earlier and tried to hit and got put in jail for a short spell (not the first time either). Then having crazy tattoos on his face. Taking out 10s of contract phones just to sell them for half the value and get in serious finance issues. Because of this, his phone number has changed so much recently and spells without having a contactable phone.
Then these spells usually end and he becomes communicative once again, until the next spell. However, this spell seems to be quite a bit longer than normal, and these spells are increasing.
As I said, I find it hard with socialising so it’s not easy to deal or know how to respond with this. But I welcome your views, ideas and input. Thanks!