@wreklus: I haven’t been able to get to my Dad’s heart or my family’s heart. I mean, we talk but I don’t feel the heart to heart conversation. I have been feeling sad due to the lack of deep connection with my family. If I make that only, my purpose of the trip back to my Home country will be complete. I did have some good time with my Dad but he has been shoved with paperwork.
I did see my Mom a month ago.
My visa interview for Ph.D program is on July 19.
Feeling closely connected with family can be a challenge.
I struggle with it often, to be honest.
I think it is enough to be ready for deeper connection with my family members and to occasionally reach out with the hope that they will be ready for the same one day.
The hard part is doing so without placing expectations on them. Really, there is no obligation on anyone’s part to be open and attentive to us.
So, it’s worth while to build up a network of people who can be supportive when we need it…
Just that it’s much easier said than done.
Guess what? Yesterday my Dad was stressed about lot of work and I shared my emotions, “I said, Why are you harsh on me?” Later, he confessed and he said he loved me. I felt so happy! It was the first time, I heard him sharing it.
I have my visa interview tomorrow! Wow!
@wrecklus: My Visa got denied… I am sad! I waited for months to go this path. I am not sure what to do next. I ca reapply but not sure what else to do in career.
@wreklus: I’ve been depressed, sad. It’s not a permanent reject, I can try to apply again for visa. But I am lost because my purpose seems to have been destroyed. I wanted to do a Ph.D and it didn’t seem to work out so far.
Childhood emotional neglect term coined by Dr. Jonice Webb.
You should read her book Running on Empty.
You can get on EBay or Digital version for the nook.
Her book can help you heal.
@Chuong_Ha: Thanks for the suggestion. I am not sure what to do with my life next?
@wreklus: Geez, I feel like I lost an opportunity.
@wreklus: I’m giving the visa interview again, keep me in prayers!
@wreklus: I’ve been preparing intensely for the visa interview again! Keep me in prayers!
@wreklus: I finished the Visa Interview, I got my visa approved! I’ll be back in America!
@wreklus: I got my visa!
@wreklus: I am in America!
@wreklus: I am in America. I finished my first semester of my PhD.
Updating my goals: immediate goal are to revamp my skill-set and start publishing research work.
Long-term goal is land in a career path that would give me enough $$ and intellectual satisfaction.
@wreklus: I am trying to get married, hopefully things will work out! I have been growing better in understanding my emotions
I went through a massive heart-break in a relationship, initially I thought I would survive and move on, but extreme amount of guilt, sorrow took over me. It consumed me so much, yet I know the other person (girl) moved on so much.
Oh, I ask why is that in my life, what I desired would not happen? I mean, I wanted to be with this person, we had misunderstandings and boom it all shattered.
Sigh!
I also learnt that I’d need to reflect back emotions of anger, pain to the person who is experiencing it.
@wreklus: Any comfort for my soul? It’s been traumatic with fall out in relationship.
It’s been so hard on me! I wish I can share with someone…
I’ve been feeling resentful due to fallout of relationship. I mean, I have to accept the reality that I’ll be by myself mostly.
Update from me: I’m in the process of breaking away from my family completely. It happened as we had disagreements on marriage process, turmoil. I’ve been thinking that, I would completely shut them off.