I am now divorced and have been for over 12 years. My now ex husband, father of my 2 children was finally to a pdoc and diagnosed with OCD and the personality disorder OCPD both. I’ve come to learn that the associated delusions fall under psychosis or Sz . This has torn my 2 girls and I apart because even though they are in their 20s now, they can’t recognize the odd behavior and delusions like I can. Some of his common delusions are
Fear of germs, with hand washing until the skin comes off
Chronic masturbation, 10 hours a week of porn usage, always catching and inspecting semen in his hand
Compulsive cleaning and ordering items, everything was washed multiple times and placed into drawers and closets in a specific order, I was not to tough anything
Cannot use a public restroom, if you do, you must shower immediately
Hoarding and spending, collecting items, useless sometimes in complete sets, like ordering every book on woodworking he could find, by the set, even though all the sets contained duplicate information
Total control freak, would have to know my location and activities every second
I can go on and on about the pain this has caused me. I read mothers laments here on just the Sz, and I wanted to let everyone know I can relate to all the care a mentally ill person requires. I am happier now, but I feel like I’ve lost my 2 adult daughters to his manipulative madness, and I try not to be too sad over it.
If anyone has any suggestions on how to cope better, I’m all ears.