Well I am extremely concerned about him related to any discharge.
He called me today, which I believe was prompted by his therapist related to making family connections. It is the first time I have talked to him since my experience with him on Sunday, and the first time he has called me at all since he has been in the hospital (he has been in for a month). He continues to believe the only reason he is there is because I “put him there.”
The strange thing was that he wanted to know if I would let him come home to my house. That is shocking to my husband and I. He has been nothing but angry with me. I told him that I would, but there would need to be some safeguards in place and assurances that he would work toward wellness and stability. He openly admitted (and as I expected) that he was only planning on saying he would follow a discharge plan, but he was not planning on doing it. His plan was to say he was coming to my house and turning around and leaving from there. He talks about going homeless as if it is appealing.
All the while in our phone conversation, he would drop away from the conversation we were having and would respond to a conversation in his head, he then would resume our talk and was telling me he doesn’t need medication, that there is nothing wrong with him…and then would respond to something he told me that he heard me say under my breath. Hmmmm. I was hoping that 2+ weeks of meds, and his 3rd Invega shot yesterday, would allow us to recover a little insight…but so far, still fixed beliefs, delusions, and responding to voices. The best thing about the Invega shots so far is he is at least talking and interacting. He struggles to suppress all of his symptoms…but he still keeps much of this illness to himself.
Will they discharge him if he isn’t willing to acknowledge the significance of his illness, especially if they know he is not likely follow a discharge plan? Can I impact the discharge plan because of him telling me the things he does? I would welcome any wisdom on what…if any…power I have in this process. They told me that the soonest discharge would be 3rd week of March…the latest would be mid-April.
My leaning is not to have him discharge to our home, as he views where we live as an easy place to fall under the radar. He is somewhat correct. I live in a town of 100 people and am 70 miles from the grocery store, much less anything else. It often takes 1-2 hours to get a county sheriff to where we live for any needs. It is also very isolating here, and there is not any work.
Oh…the wild ride we all have in this life with our loved ones. Thank you all for listening!