I’m looking for some advice. My brother was recently diagnosed with SZ (in March) and he has a hard time going to work on time, focusing at work, and he doesn’t help out at home. However I know that he is capable of more (he is capable of going to the grocery store, cooking his own meals, driving, etc.). My brother presents as apathetic and maybe he’s scared to fail or try new things. He recently quit his job after going off of medication and is staying at home. Before the diagnosis my brother was often at home and had a hard time working. He has been at home more often than he has worked in his life. Currently my brother says that he just wants to take his time. He does not believe he has SZ and credits his whole hospitalization experience to the doctors misdiagnosing him and him saying things because he was bored out of his mind so he said those things. My brother appears to believe that people who tell him what to do want him to be unhappy and are toxic. My brother says that his paranoia is his strength. I haven’t asked what that means.
I want to know how I can push him to do more or if that is even the right way. I don’t know what the right thing to do is anymore. I wish I could look into his head and see what his barriers are and why he does what he does. I’m worried that he’ll just continue to stay at home and not feel motivated to try. I feel like I’m damned if I let him live in limbo and I’m damned if I push him harder. He won’t listen to me but, in his shoes I don’t really know if I would either. I don’t know what it’s like in his shoes and hearing the things I say to him. I can’t tell if his behaviour stems from a lack of insight about his SZ or his pride. I get the overwhelming feeling that it’s just him ignoring problems and I get mad and I tell him how unfair it is that he doesn’t do anything. He has a habit of making excuses for himself when he makes mistakes and never admitting to doing something wrong. I’m at my wits end and I called him out on being stubborn, paranoid, prideful, and inconsiderate. I feel like the wedge between us grows larger everyday and I’m at a point where my frustration becomes unbearable when I’m facing him but, disappears when he’s not in the room.
Sorry if this is unclear. I hope someone can help.