So reading through these posts have made me realize something that I’ve been dreading to acknowledge.
Although not diagnosed at this time, I’m nearly 100% certain my mother is schizophrenic after having a psychotic break a little over a month ago.
After my parents divorced about 16 years ago, things changed with my mother. She wasn’t as attentive to my brother and I, immediately took on a new relationship, and began to fill our heads with tales of our (horrible rotten father who took everything she had). I’ve been told this since the age of 11-12 … and now at 26… so many things are making sense now.
Stories with grand details about how our father stole from her (he never did… he’s a successful medical professional who was and is still a fantastic father and grandfather to my daughter), how he abused her, how he ruined her life (my mother cheated on my father).
I had to hear things things, and still do to this day. It wasn’t until about a month ago that things got absolutely out of control. My mother took a trip to visit family out of state… and within days was kicked out of their home. She was telling family that demons were following her, that an alien had made the trip with her, and that they needed to get the house blessed. She berated family members, texted all close family and told them she hated them, they were trash, and that they were worthless. It only got worse from there.
Just today I received a message saying that my aunt, her husband, and my mothers ex boyfriend were murdered while attempting to rob a hotel and casino in Las Vegas. I quickly verified that everyone was okay… and then panic set in. This doesn’t seem like drugs; I think my mother actually believes that these things have occurred. Im overseas for work and unable to see her in person, but I’ve heard that she’s been harassing neighbors, telling them to call her a limo, and said she was helping to investigate a homicide for the police.
I’m devastated.
We’ve had such a rocky relationship since the divorce and have always been cautious around her as she has always loved to badmouth me (to my wife while I’m not around, same for my brother and our dad), and it’s gotten exhausting.
Now I’m 26, married, happy, successful and concerned about how this could seriously cause issues with my family.
My mother recently accused my father in law of assaulting her (he never did), and has said that my aunt and cousin stole her identity and took thousands from her (also never happened).
This is all so fresh, so shocking, and concerning and I’m not sure what to do.
My mother has her own home, was a nurse for 30+ years and has always had a steady income and a nice home. Now, she’s on the verge of losing everything and she’s already conned family out of thousands of dollars over the years.
I feel helpless and guilty. She’s told me I was awful just like my father… for nearly 2 decades. She’s told my wife that she should divorce me and take our daughter (while I was away in Afghanistan), and I keep learning more every day. We have the money, but I know I can’t help her because she’s so bad with money, it would disappear and cause tension between my wife and I.
I don’t mean to rant and drag on in this thread, however, I’m at a loss… and writing this has been helpful.
She has ruined the relationship between myself, my brother, my wife, father, her closest friends, and it continues. She was taken in for a 5150 hold just a few days ago and manipulated her way through the system. She said she was going to sue everyone at the facility and they were all incompetent. She doesn’t think anything is wrong, denies any drug use, and will not stop with far fetched stories. As soon as someone tries to call her, she rejects the call and stops all communication.
I’m so worried that she’ll end up losing her job, her house, and everything. I’m paying for my wife’s college, working overseas months at a time, all while trying to protect my beautiful daughter and wife from the trauma and drama arising from this situation.
I don’t know what to do… I just want to say thank you to all who have shared on this thread.