I recently found out that my cousins and Uncle were told by their family therapist, my Aunt may need to go to a nursing home. My Aunt has been diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. My Uncle has power of attorney for her, however he doesn’t want her to be institutionalized. According to the family these are the issues,
She takes her meds except for a thyroid med she says makes her sick. (She takes meds on her own)
She won’t go anywhere.
She wears her coat all the time even when it’s hot
Doesn’t cook meals
Thinks there’s spirits in the house
2 years ago she went to grocery store and didn’t come back.
My Uncle ended up going to get her in South Dakota , they live in northern Iowa! She thinks she was,in prison where they didn’t feed her, let her have coffee, or even a stick of gum.
She told me this and I thought she was joking, until he confirmed it was true.
She then started singing an Elvis song and told me his ghost helps her sing better.
She’s supposed to exercise,
My Uncle says the only exercise she will do is jumping around and dancing. (She hurt her shoulder therefore an aide comes in to help her bathe and do light housework 3 times a week)
Her behaviors are in my opinion alarming if she is indeed taking her meds.
I suggested they talk to the family therapist that my two cousins and Uncle see. They did this and decided to have the aide come in and talk to her about taking the thyroid meds and let her know that if she didn’t start taking the med she may have to go to a nursing home. She’s now taking the med. However, I still feel that there are things my Uncle and cousins could do to help and other help that they could get for her.
One issue they’ve had is her changing or cancelling Dr appointments and then not telling anyone. I suggested that the contact person be my Uncle or one of my cousins take the home phone off the paperwork. The therapist suggested him not telling her about appointments so she can’t change them.
The medical issues with her have been ongoing for as long as I remember, singing at Christmas when no-one else was and the ambulance coming to get her, I was maybe 6 then. Afterwards she would be in the hospital, we’d all go clean the house and then she’d come home again. I found out as an adult she had been in a mental hospital.
I feel like my Uncle and cousins are not asking the questions that need asked or being proactive in her treatment. I asked what drugs she took and they had no idea. She is not made to keep appointments or go the the therapist. Since I am new to this am I wrong to be alarmed with what is going on? I am planning on going to visit next week do I let it go and just visit or try to help? She’s not happy and I think very sick. I’m worried