Hello everyone I thought I would give an update as I know we wonder about one another.
Well my husband is still inpatient thank goodness and I have pushed and his social worker has pushed for a longer stay.
He started to present well and I got worried we were in for another turn on the revolving door.
Luckily for me and ultimately him of course he cheeked his meds last night and today. Or tried to rather. Right away with the manipulation on his part undeniably in their faces they told him they were going to try to keep him for up to 180 days.
Now I truly don’t know if this is the case bc his social worker was technically off today for the holiday. But apparently she was in for a bit today and I wonder if it was to advocate for his stay to be longer as she said she was going to.
She’s off on Tuesdays every week so I know I won’t hear from her tomm but she did promise me that the other social worker working tomm would be calling me with an update.
His 72 hours of involuntary hold ends in another couple of hours and the discharge process takes about 24 hours so I feel somewhat confident that they really are taking him to court on Wednesday afternoon.
I just really need to hear it from them. the not knowing is causing me a tremendous amount of anxiety.
I spoke to him this evening and he’s determined to get the psych to let him come home tomm and I’m sure he’s probably not going to but considering how many times they have let him out recently I can’t help but feel anxious.
I need it to be Wednesday afternoon around 430 so I know if this place is going to keep him for a nice long stay or what. I can’t make backup plans with knowing a little bit which way the wind will blow.
I’m scared to let myself feel relieved if it’s all going to start again.
Now for the advice from people that have been in my shoes.
I went to visit him today. He shockingly informed me that a very friendly nurse gave him the number to some religious zealot he had met with a few times and disliked when he was not psychotic.
A man who believe he saved our city from a hurricane recently by praying and chanting.
This is who his nurse puts my husband in contact with. My psychotic husband who has a history of religious obsession while psychotic which they are aware of.
The last thing he needs is some idiot visiting him who tells him to pray the symptoms away you know???
And yes he asked him to come visit bc he’s not in his right mind.
Apparently as proxy I can prevent that and will obviously do so but now my husband will see that as I am treating him like a child and controlling him and denying him something he wants.
This dumb nurse just made my life harder and possibly complicated my husbands recovery.
She obviously doesn’t understand boundaries and how do I know she won’t do other inappropriate things or say inappropriate things to him or even other patients?
I think she might say some thing to him along the lines of “your wife complained about me giving you this guys number”
She was audacious enough to come up to our table during the visit and tell me about it as well and when I gave her quite a few looks and did not smile about it nor act receptive towards her dumb action she even became a little defensive and told me “he’s a nice guy he’s my neighbor” IS SHE FOR REAL WHO THE F Are U AND YOUR NEIGHBOR like I don’t know you from Joe all I know is you made a huge mistake messing with my husbands recovery I don’t know you I don’t trust you now that I see you are doing questionable things on the unit. How could this have happened?? She put a wrench in the situation and I really resent that. Now I have to approve his guest list and I’ll have to see if I can have a phone call list of approved family only. Great. This never needed to happen I’m pissed as hell.
Any advice on this bull?
Thanks in advance.