I’m looking to get some insight, advice, etc here.
Tldr: Cousin has become increasingly spiritual over the last year and a half. Quit high paying job, is living in motels/in his car because God/universe told him to as part of a spiritual journey/awakening. Trying to wrap my mind around everything and support as best as I can. Visiting soon and would like some advice on how to engage and convince him to move back home to East Coast (he’s in California now).
Background:
My cousin is in his early thirties. He has two degrees (a bachelors and an advanced professional one). After grad school, he worked for a few years. He’s always been a smart, logical and generally well adjusted individual.
He moved away to middle America, far from family and friends, for work. COVID happened and I know it affected him deeply (combo of loneliness, racial conflicts at the time etc) but for the most part, I felt like he pulled through it. Eventually sometime in 2021, he relocated to a different state for another job.
Through 2021, he became increasingly spiritual. He would talk about vibes and energies and the universe. The family is pretty religious but he wasn’t so this was a bit strange to me at first but I came around eventually. He started to send me random social media posts about spirituality (which I actually appreciated because it was a refreshing way to look at things for me as well). As the year went by, he became more and more spiritual in how he thought about things and expressed himself. At some point, towards the end of last year, he talked about the people he hung out with being jealous of him and toxic and having bad energies. It all came to a head one night when he told me a guy he knew was extremely obsessed with him - the guy was copying his style, his way of speaking etc. He even alluded to thought hacking (because a lot of times, he’ll be thinking something and then the guy would say the exact thing). He eventually cut off everyone and just stopped hanging out with people in general.
Then another night that week, he texted me that he thought he was being followed, that his apartment was broken into (and stuff was tampered with), that the area he lived in was a hub for the illuminati, that his phone had been hacked. He later told me that it was a spiritual attack.
Fast forward to this year, some months back, he told me he wasn’t renewing his lease. At the same time, he told me he had actually quit his job late last year (without telling anyone) - God/the universe told him to do both of these things (he’d become increasingly anti-corporate America so I don’t know if that’s why he quit, or if God/Universe truly told him to). He didn’t have a plan - just a command that this was what he had been told (by God/the universe/spirit guides) to do because he was to go on a spiritual journey. He had/has student loans, car payment, bills etc that I guess he’s defaulted on but he said the command was for him to live in the now and completely lean on God/the universe and let go of control and the need to be in control of everything. For the last almost 3-4 months, he’s essentially been homeless (moving around from motel to motel). He spends his days taking walks, going to the park and I’m not really sure what else. At this point, he’s out of money (I was sending him money occasionally but I can’t afford to anymore) so he’ll be living out of his car for the most part. I’m scared that he’s going to resort to begging for money (he says it’s not going to come to that - but he said the same thing about the homeless situation).
Some other things that he’s said during this period:
- He’s in some sort of spiritual battle. Within that realm, he has a high rank as one of the top generals fighting with angels. He says he wakes up every morning feeling completely drained and exhausted.
- A lot of people know him (he’s very popular). When pressed for more details, he says he can’t reveal
- He’s going to be a very rich, famous and influential person. No additional details
- He talks about dimensions and portals etc
- His mom (my aunt) is extremely worried as you can imagine (she believes there’s a mental health component to all this). Every time she calls him, she asks about plans etc and he doesn’t have an answer. She’s tried to convince him to move back home but he has refused. He’s become increasingly frustrated with the calls because he says it’s bad energy. Now he says the devil is using her to get to him and to distract him from what he’s supposed to do.
He has moments of feeling happy and fulfilled (because he’s doing what he’s supposed to) and moments of extreme sadness (because he’s tired of everything and feels like everything should have been over at this point). Every time I express concern, he says to have faith in him and just hold on. I’ve referenced the whole “people following him” incident from last year and he now says he’s not sure if it was a spiritual attack or if it really happened.
I’ve been very open-minded through all this. I want to support as best as I can. If this is truly something that people go through spiritually, then I’d like to understand more (stories from others that have gone through something similar, books I can read to educate myself, articles/journals that expand on these topics etc). If however, this is something more, I’d like to know that. I’m scared that if I’m more vocal about my concerns, he’ll cut me off (because at that point, I’ll be bad energy/the Devil is using me) and then he’ll be truly and absolutely isolated/cut off from everyone.
I talked to a friend’s friend who is a doctor and she suggested that he is likely schizophrenic and advised us to do whatever it takes to get him back home with family before things escalate and he gets in trouble with the law (this is very critical because he’s a black male - I’m so afraid to involve the police). I will be going with another older cousin and my boyfriend within the next week to visit him and see how to convince him to come back home so he’s not so far from family. Can anyone advise on how to engage? What can we say to get him to come home? Is it bad if we lie that someone is gravely ill? I’m at a complete loss.
Thanks in advance!