Thank you
I need to find a way to make him realize he needs help.
He says there is nothing wrong with him.
He has punched friends and even others who thinks want to hurt him. He says he has good reason too. Only he thinks that. He only cares about himself. I still make sure i buy groceries for him and the basic needs for himself. Right now he is sick and i will take him to the Dr. If i even suggest to ask for medication i know he will start fighting with me again. I am trapped with hands behind my back waiting for something bad to happen.
I understand, I have been in that same position. I think getting guardianship was what got us thru this. He didnāt like THAT either, but has eventually come to accept it.
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I am glad you shared your story on this site! There is a lot of encouragement here and quite a range of topics, I encourage you to learn all you can. There IS hope! My best advice: Read āSurviving Schizophrenia; a Family Manualā by Dr. E. Fuller Torrey. The most recent edition is 7th but 6th addition would also be good if it is more available to you. If possible, find a NAMI family support group (NAMI.org then find a link for your state NAMI). Other information and resources are also on that national site. Lastly, but CRUCIAL in my opinion if you really want to work to help your loved one who cannot see himself as being sick, is to read the book āI Am Not Sick; I Donāt Need Helpā by Dr. Xavier Amador. You are cared about!
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How has your husband responded to the Vyarlar? My son tapered off of Geodon and gradually added tbe Vyarlar he takes 3 mg morning and night. So far heās doing well on it.
I think itās working, swill is, thanks for asking.
Seemed more relaxed at home within four days and nine days in, I can see some signs that the world is feeling less overwhelmingly threatening and hostile to him.
Iām very glad it seems to be working for your son as well.
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Today they are both out in the sun with their dog
A better day than most as itās rare for her to go out or open the curtains
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Iām fairly new here and my husband is super vain. Heās 57 and fairly newly diagnosed and itās progressing quickly (he was dxād 30 yrs ago but has been 100% under control with Seroquel until about a year ago and it stopped working and symptoms came with a HUGE BANG). He was hopsitilized a couple months ago and they had him on Clozapine for the week he was in and he took himself off when he was discharged as he didnāt like the side effects (the dizziness he felt nor the weight gain he read about). Heās researched them all and found them all to have weigh gain so he refuses all of them. Besides, heās not sick, so why should he take meds. Heās getting really, really bad to where heās yelling at people in restaurants, yelling at my 6 yr old grandson, starting to medicate with alcohol (beer), and I spent the night at a motel this past week. Itās coming super close to us splitting and I said Iād never leave a sick man. And I feel that I really never will, I left cuz I just needed a few days away, but it only lasted less than 24 hrs, as he had a psych appt (video) at 11:30 the next day and I wanted to be there for it. He of course said he was doing so much better since being home from the hospital, and u know what? I think he may actually believe that. He did do a little better but has spiraled the last few weeks.
Ok, after writing a novel, I wanted to find out, what are the weight neutral meds that they have? All that Iāve also researched show susbstantial weight gain also. He would literally rather be homeless, with a mental illness, lose me, not talking to his kids, or grandkids, lose his job, than gain 30 lbs. Seriously.
Help!
Thanks so much!
Marci
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If u go to your court house they have a dept that does it.
Somewhat lower risk weight gain medications are:
Abilify
Saphris
Haldol
Rexulti
Latuda
Geodon
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Good list. Vraylar is in there too, as itās similar to Abilify, but more costly since itās still under patent protection, so no generic is available.
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Thanks, I still am in regular contact with one of my Family to Family leaders - she provided the list;)
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You are in a difficult situation, it is better to share it here than to hold it in! I have been thru several of those spiraling cycles, and I feel for you.
The most weight neutral med my son has been on is Geodon. However, the Clozapine also has not caused significant weight gain. If my son was more active, he would be better able to maintain a ābetterā weight. He is more apt to gain weight drinking BEER!
Stay safe, take care of yourself, know that you are not alone.
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Iām so sorry. This disease steals everything.
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There is SOME reason your husband took Seroquel for all those years. If he thinks he is not sick, he has āanosognosiaā. The best way to help someone with that manifestation of the illness is putting into practice the things described by Dr. Xavier Amador in the book āI Am Not Sick; I Donāt Need Helpā.This is a good explanation and overview of using the LEAP approach: Learn to LEAP Trailer - YouTube
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My sons dr put him on 30 mg abilify for the weight gain from the invega trinza. He lost about 20 lbs.
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Sigh. Yes, this disease does steal so much from our loved oneās lives. With fight, hope and luck things can get better. Donāt give up the fight against the disease.
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Hows the vraylar working out?
what symptoms has it helped with?
is the vraylar working?
It seems to be working very well.
How is your wife doing?