Hi. My best friend S suffers from sz. He just got out of jail and put on probation requiring treatment and taking medication. He’s in his 30s, and he lives with his 60s parents. They have responded to this situation by cacooning him from the world. They don’t want any of his friends to contact him – and they are the total gatekeeper right now, no access to him except through them.
A week or two ago I e-mailed his parents and asked them to see if S was willing to communicate with me at present, and they have not responded to me. I want S to at least know that he has many friends who care for him and have not abandoned him because of his illness. But it seems his caregivers want him isolated for one reason or another and aren’t willing to talk to anyone.
What should I do? How should I approach his parents in the most productive way?
S’s delusion when he was psychotic largely focused on me, and his mother once told me that she blamed me for his illness. So I don’t really trust them to take care of him, not with ideas like that. Is there anything I can do? Should I try to brute force my way to him? Because that sounds like it would not go well. But I do not like the idea of S being so isolated. Isn’t socializing and having a big support group a very positive thing? Why do the caregivers want him away? Why don’t they respond to me?
I don’t know what to do.