I need some advice from people that understand. My boyfriend is 47 years old and we have been together (and lived together) for 6 years. I have known the whole time that he was schizophrenic and he believes he is God. He believes that he visits Heaven and runs things there.
He will not get treatment because he says he does not have schizophrenia. He was committed to a mental facility 3 times by his mom in the past and they diagnosed him and he receives social security for it. He cannot work, as he cannot go very long without having to take time for himself to work through things. He lives with me and my adult daughter.
He had a mental breakdown last fall, which he worked through on his own, but not until he became violent after drinking and I had to make him move out for 6 months. He then came back. It started again a couple of months ago, with him seeming out of it most of the time and needing time to himself, not talking much and he will not even look at his cell phone. I have never seen him this bad. He still talks to me, but mostly it’s just about what he’s going through.
I’m very good at being here and understanding mental illness, as I have always been able to research and help and I also have bipolar disorder type 2 and ADHD, but I stay on medication and I have no issues with it. I have a post graduate degree and (although laid off now) usually have a decent job.
Knowing the whole background now, I don’t know what to do at this point. I feel like I’m alone in this relationship. I’m a caregiver and not part of a couple. I want to take trips and do things, but I can’t because I would have to pay for both of us. I have to buy his clothes and take care of him.
I think maybe I have hit my point of exhaustion, both mentally and financially. My daughter gets scared because she’s afraid he becomes violent because his schizophrenia seems to be getting worse. She is a Psychology major and she graduates in May, so she has read a lot about it. I would feel terrible to make him leave and go back to his mom’s house, but I don’t know what to do.
Has anyone had issues with schizophrenia getting worse with age? This seems to be what is happening with him. Any advice would be great. I truly love this man, but I am not sure what to do any more.