That is to say initially he had delusional thoughts that still cause him to fear me. Delusions ranging from thinking I was going to harm him. or that I am controlling his thoughts among some other odd ones, But while being treated (in-patient) they became, in his words “a voice moving farther away”
All his life my son has spend half time with me and half time with his mother. (a situation from what I’ve read increases the chances for mental health issues) but not my main point. He’s sixteen, good kid, good grades 3.8+, in football, knowledge bowl, band, choir. Sorry, dad bragging!
It all started(delusions-psychosis–>ER—>in-patient) four months ago so please forgive my newness. He was diagnosed with schizophreniform and anxiety disorder. It was not until his second in-patient stay when he first declined my phone calls and my visits. OK That sucked. But not his fault. It’s delusions. And before he was discharged he was accepting my calls and visits. Then only a few days later he tells his therapist the delusions focused on me are back. To the extent that his therapist recommended “to give him a little time”. Meaning that I do not contact him nor see him for the next “couple of weeks”. The no contact part bothered me. But I was assured it was all part of the process. (I thought how oddly fortunate that his mother and I are not together or I would of had to move out, I guess). So two weeks pass at which point his therapist tells me things are improving but my son still has paranoia and anxiety towards me. And doesn’t recommend him living with me yet. But it’s ok to contact him and that these things take time. That was two months ago.
I’m sure my knowledge is limited at best. I’ve heard sometimes it’s a medication issue. Also some delusions persist regardless. Directly challenging a delusion rarely works. But delusions should not be dismissed or validated either. Which finally brings me to my point/questions/conundrum.
As I understand it the medication takes away the delusions but he is still left with the knowledge of once believing that I was “out to hurt him”. Which makes him anxious, embarrassed and confused. It seems to me that to staying away just reinforces his fears. Just sitting on the sidelines does not feel right I keep watching his grades fall. His school attendance fall below 50%. And can’t help but think that my influence would net a more positive than negative effect on my son. Or perhaps I’m just whining, think too highly of myself or just don’t understand.
Any comments, criticizims, or info would be greatly appreciated.