I’ve been married to a bi-polar schizo affective woman for about a decade. We recently moved to another state and it seemed to have triggered her, she now hears voices and is extremely paranoid.
She has been hospitalized 3 times in the last 2 and a half years. She refuses to see a pdoc, she refuses to take medication, she constantly lies about things like not drinking, etc… Anyways, it’s the same scenario every time she gets out of the hospital. She takes meds for a few weeks, sees the pdoc, and then she goes off the meds and refuses to see the pdoc afterwards.
After a bit of time she will start self medicating with booze, and then things get CRAZY. It usually ends up with me and the kids cowering in the parking lot while the police and paramedics cart of my wife for a week or 2 stay at the hospital.
At this point I’m thinking about running. Pack up enough bags for me and the kids, and head home to my parents house in another state. I would have to quit my job, and things would probably be a bit rough for a few months while I found another. But I’m thinking that this might be a good opportunity to finally get away from her.
I’m a bit worried about what would happen to her. She has no job and no ability to hold a job. She probably wouldn’t even be able to file for wellfare or disability, since she is so out of it. I’m guessing that she would either end up back in her native country (if she could get there without causing some type of scene, can delusional people take plane flights?, and wouldn’t that be the worst person you could imagine sitting next to for an extended flight across an ocean?) or she would end up homeless/in jail/in the hospital.
Anyways, I’m trying to work this all out right now. There are some things like bankruptcy (3 multi-week stays in the hospital are expensive without insurance, and heck even the insurance I had for one visit had zero mental health coverage.) that I’m trying to plan out right now that factor into the decision to bail as well.