Family and Caregiver Schizophrenia Discussion Forum

Need help about girlfriend


#1

My girlfriend has been diagnosed with schizophrenia and it has it’s ups and downs but lately it’s been a lot worse. I love her with all my heart and I will always be there for her at her side but I’m lost in how to help her in anyway. She tells me she always has some sort of voices speaking to her and when it’s just 2 or 3 it’s fine she says because she can just “block” them but she told me when they yell it’s when they basically take over. At first I didn’t realize it too quickly but now I notice when this happens almost immediately. She has told me many things what they say, for example: just jump, cut to the bone, he doesn’t love you, he hates you, you’re stupid. Idk what to do, I’m lost to how to help her.

I would love some advice on how to help her when this comes up. Thank you for who ever has read and is willing to help me and my girlfriend


#2

The best thing my husband has done to help me is to take me to bed, hold me tight, and whisper sweet things.


#3

its better 2 take her to pdoc…


#4
  1. Get yourself a copy of this book and read it cover to cover. We need to be as fully educated as possible.
  1. Go to this website, read the list, and see if anything fits for you (because we need to face our own stuff in these situations to be fully capable to do the best we can for them):

http://coda.org/index.cfm/meeting-documents/patterns-and-characteristics-2010/

  1. Does she drink to excess or do drugs? If she doesn’t, fine. If she does, it’s gonna be one hell of an uphill battle.

  2. Observe what is here. Recognize what is here (including the fact that because she is a girlfriend, you have no legal standing; see #5 below). Acknowledge what is here. Accept what is here. She is a human being with a severe mental illness.

  3. Are you on good terms with her family? If so, you may be able – with the guidance of those who know what they’re doing with the pt in denial (see below) – to come up with an effective strategy with which all the significant people in her life are equally on board.

  4. Get on the Internet and look for qualified professional family counseling in your area to bring you all up to speed on what you can and cannot – or should not – do to get her the help she needs.


#5

Thank you all for the advice. I’ll read that book


#6

Using LEAP may help to keep a conversation going while she is experiencing this.

http://www.leapinstitute.org/ - under resources are free videos on using LEAP
LEAP is a way of communicating to build trust. Listen-Empathize-Agree-Partner.