Newbie here. Would like to introduce myself.
My name is Kathie &
my husband is a paranoid schizophrenic & also has been diagnosed with major depression and borderline mental retardation.
We have been married 20+ years.
Initially I thought his behaviors were related to his alcohol & drug use, but he stopped that early on except for occasional relapses.
But still the behaviors persisted so he got him diagnosed & is 95% medication compliant.
However, I have always struggled with many aspects of his behavior & feel more like his mother than spouse. Additionally some issues have never been resolved & I become a raving bitch when they keep coming up…I constantly feel like I am dealing with a teenager!
So let me ask if any of you deal with any of these issues, how you have dealt with them & have found your patience disappearing more each year???
- As mentioned feeling more like parent than spouse?
- Lack of adult boundaries such as discussing your kids problems w/spouse & how to address them, but him going to kids to warn them of possible punishments despite discussing this should be a joint effort? Or sharing personal info w/neighbors, friends, etc.
- Inability to manage money?
- Other addictions such as to porn, energy drinks or shopping?
My husband has a heart of gold & would do anything for us, but he acts like a teenager rather than an adult and I have allowed his behaviors to make me miserable.
Any feedback would be welcome.