People vary on their ability and capacity to handle expressions of anger. You can develop coping and stress management skills, and you will learn what techniques help YOU deal with these difficult situations.
My son is relatively stable, but my stomach will still knot up when I sense he is having a bad day. But I have learned how to behave myself to keep things from escalating.
Sorry to intrude on your question to GSSP -Personally,I found that mentally separating myself a bit from the situation helped. My inlaws once lived in a nursing home full of friendly people, many with issues. When some of the friendly folks with issues would be less friendly due to various reasons, I found myself treating them in the same manner of kind, calm, respectful, professionalism that the staff showed them. I decided to try it with my son and found he responded to it quite well. I also found that I felt better and less stressed out. I tried to think of it as responding to my son as I would want someone else responding to him if he was in a facility. Somehow it did help remove degrees of stressful emotion for me. @GSSP with his significant amount of experience due to his double impacted life, does it really well.
I do wonder what my son thought when I had to help him move out. As we carried his furnishings I totally ignored the holes in the walls, the exposed wires, electrical outlets and the ceiling lights, fans and fire alarms all hanging crooked and broken from the ceiling.
Steel sheeting on the walls probably would have saved me some money in the long run.
When he was totally lost in an episode and dangerous, I kept myself safe and away from him.
easy is relative, live the few years you have left for yourself⌠Fuck it, what they gona do when your gone? does it really matter? do you fret over it? why? as it is what it isâŚ
Ah, GSSP, I know you do fret about it (although you try not to).
You have been dealing with so much for so long.
Iâm really glad youâve been able to find some happiness, at least during your weekend trips.
You deserve it. Youâre a good guy.
yep but only 23 hours a day not 24âŚ
Hereâs to a good hour each day, then!