Recently my wife and I brought her 27 year old brother home from a psychiatric hospital two weeks ago. He’s been diagnosed schizoaffective (bipolar type) many times over the years. Her family has been trying to help him for years but over the last 5 or 6 things have gotten way out of hand.
It all started in November when he was flown from the east coast to California for our wedding and then he refused to fly home (he actually ran away when everyone was getting ready to go to the airport). At the time he was off his medications completely. After being picked up by the police he was released to my wife and I and we tried for a few weeks to help him. We tried to take him to a doctor, we tried to get him to take his medications, we tried to encourage and help him look for a shelter and work (that’s what he wanted to do) but at the end of the day he wouldn’t budge. Our days were spent stuck at home because we couldn’t leave him on his own for fear of him letting our pets loose, leaving our house unlocked (door open) etc or trying not to argue with him when he wanted to do nothing else but eat, sleep and listening to music all day. We finally gave him a choice, come with us to see a doctor and get back on medication or be asked to move out of the house. He chose to move out of the house.
Seven months later we have him back with us again. During his time on the streets he’s been picked up and hospitalized twice. In this latest round he is back on medication but we strongly suspect he’s not on the right dosage or he’s somehow not taking the medication or throwing it up because his symptoms are very much the same as when he was not on his medication.
We are trying to avoid having to kick him out again but he is becoming combative and argumentative when it comes to trying get him help. We are trying to understand how to set boundaries and house rules for him as well as how we can engage medical help to ensure he’s on the right medication and dosage. We apparently are not permitted to interact with his doctor because he hasn’t authorized anyone.
We are feeling very stuck right now, very stressed, angry and confused. Looking not only for suggested resources but a support network that understands our frustration and can provide some guidance.
Thank you in advance.