The latest on my sister is that she has stopped communicating with me. She will not answer her phone or any of my text messages. I’m not sure what happened since December but now it’s very difficult to know what’s going on with her. I have a social worker team that I can call to go check on her but she will not let them in, she will look out the window and that’s it. I guess this is something but This is so frustrating!!! I’m 5 states away and I have no-one there that can go into the house on a regular basis to see what’s going on. She will text my kids or call at various hours of the day but she won’t respond when they text back or answer the phone. At least she will contact them so I know that she’s alive. I flew to the house this weekend and went in. Surprisingly the house was not in total disarray and when she finally made it out of the room after me calling her name about 10 times, she looked ok. She was groomed but extremely paranoid. She wanted me to leave and she became very agitated and pretty much pushed me out the door. She did accept the groceries that I bought her but she locked the door back so that I couldn’t get back in. I know this illness is horrible but I just get so frustrated. My sister lives in our family home that we both pay the mortgage but I’m not able to stay there anymore. She’s also not paying the bills for the home. I’ve been paying them and I’m just trying to figure out what’s going on in her head. She wants no part of me but I’m the one that’s doing the things to keep her in the house. I HATE this disease and what it does to people diagnosed as well as the families.
I’m sorry you are going through this right now with your sister,
I’m glad you were able to get into the house and it’s not in disrepair and sister at least has groceries, and a home for now.
Sometimes my sibling has done similar where he will randomly send messages basically I know he’s alive but can’t get a hold of him for a period of time.
Sounds like sister is at minimum compliance right now ,at least she goes to the window but obviously in a state of paranoia about actually opening the door for the social worker .
This disease is Extremely Frustrated for all involved !!!
One of the hardest things for me is( tolerating the uncertainty)
So much so that I have to consciously work on that when I’m faced with a heightened situation like you are now.
Like you said not knowing or having someone that can go into the house.
I’m just sorry your facing this right now it takes a lot emotionally to decide if you need to fly out this time or can manage from afar
I can relate.
Hang in there. You should feel good about yourself. You care and you are doing your best. That’s the true meaning of love. I hope this resolves quickly and you can return to some peace. God Bless!