Hi all! My son is schizophrenic and 26. He lives with his dad and stepmom. We’ve been divorced for a long time, almost 18 yrs now. My son is a very polite, kind, and quiet young man suffering with this wretched illness.
Now, I am remarried to a wonderful man. He is very suportive of me and my famiily.
My daughter is 33 and married to a man that is bipolar. Her husband also has OCD.
My daughter comes for a short visit in November and her husband is with her.
Our stove wasn’t working right during their visit, had 2 burners out and could only use the back two burners. I made the mistake of mentioning to my daughter and son-in-law not to use the front burners if they make something to eat. Well, my son-in-law just had to try and “fix” the stove top. My hubby told him not to worry about it but son-in-law wouldn’t stop. His ocd had taken hold. He spent overnight hours trying to fix it, while everyone was in bed sleeping. My hubby was none too happy, especially when son-in-law had taken the gas meter off the house around back and had it on the ground while trying to fix the old stovetop.
Next day the visit ends and both go home. Now, 2 months later my hubby and I get a phone call from my ex husband wanting to talk to both of us. He is making claims that my husband is mentally and physically abusive to my son! My husband is a good man. My son has come to visit me for the last 15 years twice a year and always has a great time when he’s visiting! NEVER, EVER has or had been any problem whatsoever! Ex now has my son convinced of this and I am just reeling from the allegations! I support my husband and am worried to death about my son. He has never had any problems with my husband before this. I know for certain that my son-in-law has started a tradic rumour that they (ex and daughter) and done soooo much harm to my son who doesn’t need this crap.
I am not sure at all what to do. How do I ever deal with getting through to my son that this is not a fact and to search his own feelings for the truth when he is so vulnerable and mentally ill? I am so sad and hurt I don’t know what to do. My son-in-law and ex have hurt my son who is the victim of this tragedy far worse than one can ever imagine! Ex won’t “allow” my 26 yrs old son now to come visit! If my son was mentally healthy he could stand up for himself and would know the truth, but with his illness and a controlling father he doesn’t stand a chance. So sad
What can be done?