Making for a really special day at your house:smiling_face_with_three_hearts:
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Yes, and he actually gave his dad a bear hug a couple hours later. It was kinda shocking, in a really good way.
Would love these days more often.
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Nice to catch up,
Our family is doing well. my husband and our daughters are coping. I did get to visit my grandson, a real joy. Havenāt posted lately, our son (Lou) is still in Limbo land, between state hospital and judicial, nothing has changed. We are able to make phone calls to Lou. He sounds really flat and non responsive, but at least he picks up the phone and listens. He has not shown any interest in us visiting him, so we stay away. Take care AnnieNorCal
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Today had its ups and downs. On the up side I had my 2x/week visit with my 5 1/2 year old daughter for 2 hours. It is always such a treat to spend time with her, she is growing up so fast and doing great living with her aunt and uncle.
On the down side, while I was working in the yard before I left to visit my daughter, a neighbor stopped by and said that my wife has been down by his house lately after I leave for work, calling out someone's name. He said it hasn't really bothered him until it escalated today and my wife confronted the man's girlfriend when she came out. I gave the man my phone number and he had the Sheriff call us. I spoke with the Sheriff and my wife did also. We went through something similar to this last summer, but I thought my wife had stopped the behavior only to find out that she is doing the same thing outside someone else's house. My wife is undiagnosed and unmedicated. The Sheriff said that I could go to the courthouse to get an order to have her get medical attention, which wasn't an option last year. I'll find out more info about how to go about that as soon as possible. On a side note today was a full moon. I have worked at a hospital for 26 years, and even though it may not be scientific, I believe the full moon has some effect on my wife. Just my opinion.
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Iām not sure why my phone types like that.
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I canāt figure out why my smiley face I posted with the hearts showed up as words instead of a smiley face. What did happen when you were working in the yard?
The only thing that happened when I was doing yardwork was that I was outside and it gave the man an opportunity to talk to me when he came down to find out our address to tell the sheriff. The incident that prompted the man to come down was that my wife was outside his house at 7:30 am yelling out some other manās name and the homeowners girlfriend came out and my wife confronted the girlfriend and they decided to get the Sheriff involved.
I went to see if I could talk to the Sheriff today to see how the court order worked and if they would come and take my wife to a hospital if I got the order, but they were not at the station, so I called the number I had from a business card I asked for a year ago and left a message. Iāll see how involved it is to get the order.
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A great incident to report -
A coworker of mine occasionally takes my son to a concert. (Which in and of itself is awesome.) They planned to go to a concert last night to see a band my son REEELLY likes.
About the time they were to arrive there, I got a text from my friend, telling me that my son had purchased something on Amazon that he thought was a back stage pass, but that it appeared bogus. Sigh.
Next text was my friend saying that my son was waiting to talk with someone. Then āit looks like they are letting him down nicelyā.
Next text: āHoly Crap, they are giving us club access, which includes a free buffet and private bathrooms!ā
It also happens that this was at an outdoor venue, that rain was coming, and that club access included an indoor area with video streaming of the concert.
This made me happy in so many ways -
Someone took my son to a concert.
My son WENT to a concert.
My son dealt with what Iām sure was an uncomfortable interaction, and got resolution.
People dealt kindly with my son. (At this point, it is quickly apparent when interacting with him that something is āoffā.)
My son got to enjoy something he REEELLY likes.
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It makes me happy when things like this happen. Such good luck, and how great that your son was able to handle it, and to such a good conclusion!
I also heard this morning that my son was interacting with many people throughout the evening, and that people were all gentle and kind in response.
He will notice peopleās t-shirts, hairstyles, etc, and make approving comments.
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@Vallpen, Iām sooo happy for you and your son. A huge milestone. My son also went to a Sixers basketball game recently with his older brother and friend. He had a great time and interacted.
Our children are alittle āoffā yes, but definitely not stupid. In fact sharp as a whip, and mine is starting to show alittle sense of humor again. I will take what little I can get.
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What a great story! Those people were really kind.
@AnnieNorCal, Iām glad to hear that Lou is picking up the phone for your calls. Hopefully the sounds of your voices will stir something in him, so he opens up to a visit.
Thinking of you, and wishing you luck with this.
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Lovely! There is nothing better than humor and smiles in my opinion. They are sort of like personality rainbows and butterflies, so nice to see, but fleetingā¦
So awesome for your son! I canāt believe that they got VIP accessš Good for him!
Not as cheerful today. My sonās dad, who moved halfway across the country years ago, came for a visit of a few days. My sonās delusions are often related to his dad.
I had a break, but maybe it isnāt worth it. One evening I got a text from my son asking for me to put some extra money on his account so that he could take himself out to dinner. Some disagreement.
I noticed on Monday that my son had missed his Sunday night dose. He seems to be so close to the edge that even just one dose missed is obvious.
Yesterday I noticed that he had kicked and dented the dishwasher. Sigh.
Loved to read your story about the concert and people who were kind and respectful to your son. Do you think the subsequent dishwasher incident could be related to (a) missed dose or (b) added stress being with his dad, or Ā© both? And missed dose possibly due to the distraction? Our loved ones still have challenges but so much possibility for good moments!
I think the missed dose was related to his dadās visit - probably not an intentional thing, but distracted and stressed. And the dishwasher damage was related to both.
We move onā¦
We were at a grocery store this weekend and I saw the CEO of the institute where I work, as well as his wife, who is one of the scientists there. I pointed them out and asked my son if he would likd to meet them. Next thing I know, he has gone over and started chatting with them!
They were, as I expected they would be, gracious and kind, tho a bit startled initially.
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I have looked back at your posts on this thread over the last year. It seems like you are seeing improvement over a year agoā¦do you agree? I see your post on one of the Clozapine threads that you are thinking that an increased dose might be helpful. I keep reading others who say this is a gradual process but that they keep seeing improvement on Clozapine. Wishing you the very best! There is hope!
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Yes, definitely there has been progress, including in the last year, and I am happy for every bit of it!
My son had been at 250mg for about a year, and was increased to 300mg and has stayed at that dose for some time.
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