We are finally moved. It is a much smaller and a remote place than what we had still at the same costly rent though. I wanted to share that my son weathered the move so much better than I ever thought he would.
Several positive changes occurred during the move that I am very pleased with. For a time we had no TV because we were waiting for our internet to be installed and we don’t use cable we just stream with our Roku. My son is a TV addict even more so than I am and every evening he likes watching his favorite shows.
However there were a few nights where we literally found ourselves sitting quietly almost stunned at the silence of the evening with no TV. We talked and discussed where things were going to go in the apartment -it was pretty simple really since it is so small and we had to donate much of our furniture because there was just no room. I am warming to the simplicity.
Anyway, moving in 90-100 temps and driving a black car with no a/c and 75% + humidity daily left us utterly exhausted each night as we did all this by ourselves as usual and loners that we are. So after a lifetime of my son going to bed at 3 am and getting up at 2- or 3 pm every day, he suddenly started going to bed at about 11:30 pm or midnight and surprisingly getting up at about 11:30 am or noon the next day.
Ever since birth he has been a long sleeper even as an infant he slept an inordinate amount of time each night. I tried for years to get him to get up before noon or even close to noon and I never had any luck no matter what tactic I used. Now he just gets up no alarm or help from me at all and I am so happy and ecstatic about it. It means there are so many more things we can do now that occur earlier in the day and when winter comes and the sun sets around 5 pm at least he will have some daylight to enjoy where before he often went to bed in the dark and got up just before dark.
He also, as I may have mentioned before has monitored his smoking more carefully probably because he doesn’t know the neighbors and is extremely conscious about not wanting to offend them with his smoke. He has a small portable ashtray he carries with him and he waits in the morning until he is awake and had some coffee and puts his shoes on and then gets his ashtray and walks outside and has a smoke. The process alone has decreased the number of times he goes out. Our apartment is non smoking inside only. It worried him but I tried to reassure him that so long as he just stepped outside he would be fine. He will still insist on walking down to the curb in front of our apartment. I love that he so conscientious and cautious but part of me would just like him to relax.
He decorated his room true to his unique and quirky style and it looks like a cozy eclectic nest. He helped me so much throughout the move and never complained or slacked off until we were all done. I followed his lead because I was miserable with the heat. I said to myself if he can do it, I certainly can too.
All in all it went well and the positive changes are welcomed. I was scared in the beginning and now I am happily relieved. We have an appointment to go to our first homeowner education seminar for Habitat for Humanity on August 1st. It should be the beginning of a new adventure for us and I am excited as is my son. Thanks everyone for your helpful insights and support all along the way up to this point. Gratitude abounds.