Has anyone else had the experience of having a wealthy partner with no job but inherited money? I am an 8 year caregiver for my girlfriend. Alot of her behaviours are considered eccentric in our circles, though we have no friends. She can act absolutely sick constantly but she spends enough money that no one seems to care. Refuses diagnoses, etc. The hospitals let her right out on baker acts and its almost to the point of not bothering with baker acts anymore. She is a bully and makes death threats etc but the police just arent accustomed to dealing with her. Its an issue. Has anyone else run into this?
I think whats important is if you need treatment you receive it. i look at illness from the abnormal pyschology perspective if its not genetic and you dont have a disease what created, developed, and is maintaining your illness?
if i was making threats most people would distance themselves from me. inheritance is a good thing. having money is a good thing. making sure you dont lose that inheritance is an even better idea
if you are baker acted you should probably take your medication. it is possible you could be baker acted against your will and not have a mental disorder - but the chances are pretty low
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Its not me its my wife. She wont admit an illness. So. Yeah that advice is like a pee wee football team. We are dealing with the superbowl here. Thanks however
Do you think she has the symptom anosognosia? Unfortunately, the super bowl situations have the same problems regardless of wealth.
Obviously she does!
Jason Edward Blood
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Have you had a chance to read Dr Amador’s book and watch any of his videos? If you have, how is using LEAP working in your situation? Often people say they have read the book but it didn’t help. Sort of like my friend when he tells me, “well I stopped drinking for 9 months once and my wife’s bipolar didn’t get any better” Just reading the book isn’t enough. We’ve had families that say “I read the book” and still scream at their family members “YOU’RE SICK YOU NEED HELP!”
Of course in the middle of an episode it’s just a wild ride for some families. In my family the trick was to keep other people from “jumping on the crazy train”. Families dealing with bipolar have a similar issue. Their family members go into a wild manic “dance” and other people jump up to dance with them.
I read this book and I see everyone posting about this book and it really didn’t do anything for my situation.
Can you share more about your situation? How did the book not help you?
Hey, good to see you, how is your son doing on Clozapine?
Hey Hope! I’m well thanks for asking. How have you been? I also hope your son is well. He is off clozapine now. Med compliance was a struggle. He is on Prolixin LAI which is the only medication I have seen thus far that controls the his symptoms (hearing voices). @ Julie 1 When he was unmediated and hallucinating LEAP is something I couldn’t even try because of the state of mind he was in. It’s very difficult to reason with someone in this state. Now he is medicated he understands and I have normal communication with him. It’s been a rough road. I’m great-full to God for today and where we are now.
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Very common behavior as well as hospital releasing patients too soon- the laws work against friends and families who just want their loved ones stable. So this is your girlfriend-what are you getting out of the relationship- will her family help her if you step back- this is a lifetime disability and it’s a rocky road- wouldn’t want anyone to have to or feel obligated to take care of someone who can’t take care of themselves- so take care of yourself- you didn’t cause it, can’t control it or cure it!
I am sorry that LEAP didn’t help. Sadly there isn’t any reasoning with irrational thinking. So glad yours is currently on a med that is helping.
I’ve always found it curious that when wealthy people are mentally ill others regard them as eccentric. If they’re not wealthy, they’re crazy.
If your girlfriend is abusive and won’t get treatment, why are you staying? You really need to reflect on this and be honest with yourself.
Also, though this illness certainty makes all of us angry, we try not to direct it at each other here.
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Fuck leap. Thats never going to work
Jason Edward Blood
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I never suggested LEAP. Never read it.
What do you expect from people on this website? Why are you here?
In the NAMI Family to Family class I attended - oh so many years ago- one of the things that was obvious was that brain disorders affected all races and all socioeconomic classes.
While wealth and poverty each have their own unique, potentially devastating complications, the underlying frustrating issue is always the same for everyone, in particular when our family members suffer from the symptom anosognosia.
Anyone reading this thread and wanting to privately address the original poster should remember that private conversations can always take place within this forum on the messaging system.
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My ability to go to any therapy or classes etc is impossible due to her disease. I have zero time alone and cannot use a phone in general or she will burn the house down or similar. Its serious.