It's happened again

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I was at work yesterday when I received a call from my brother’s neighbor, even if I’m at work I always try to answer if it’s her.

They have a relationship to where she takes him to food banks and shopping during the week she understands his mental illness.

She said that my brother had her take him up to Reno which is 50 mi away from where they live it’s the bigger city and they do shopping there she said when he got in the car he had a gym bag, she asked what it was he said his stuff .

he had her drop him off at the homeless shelter insisting that he was done living at the house and he just needed to get away and this is how he would get his housing by being homeless and getting on the housing list this way.

She tried to convince him otherwise and then called me I called him and told him it was a horrible decision and that she was still in town and would take him back home again he insisted this is the way he was going to do it.

She stayed in town a while in case he called but he did not want to go back. I had a few conversations with him after this each time asking him to go home he might as well from my understanding it’s just too much for him right now, with the HOA trying to fine and always driving by and taking pictures :disappointed_face:

The process that has to happen to sell the house the fact that the will is only in my name even though I had a lawyer create a document stating that he will get more than half of anything that’s left after probate.

I think the realization that the house will be sold and he will need to find a different place not having a working vehicle I think all of these things have become overwhelming and he said multiple times he just wants his freedom up there.

This is literally my worst nightmare I never wanted him to go through this or myself again. Every awful thing that happened to him well he was homeless a few years ago is still very present in both of our minds.

The fact that he’s a vulnerable adult with a brain disorder now on the streets,

I’m trying not to spiral but the last message I had from him was about 9:00 p.m. Central Time so it would have been 7:00 p.m. his time he had not found a place to be for the night the shelter was full he had found a tarp at one point and was down by the river he will not find a bed which means most likely he would be staying out all night he had a heavy bag that he didn’t want to carry around because you cannot go into any places all the horrible things that go with being homeless.

He also brought no battery packs with him for his phones and had no cables to charge.

Well I was on the phone with him yesterday he went into a bowling alley and was looking around and taking pictures he had never seen the place and he has always liked bowling but from our conversation it sounds like security was immediately on him and he was asked to leave.

I just don’t want to do this again I haven’t heard from him this morning I would imagine his phone’s died and now I’m left again with constant uncertainty and worry.

If he calls today my plan is to say he has to get back to the house or there will be no inheritance the longer he is out the farther away he will get in his mind I can’t afford to go through that with him again and he can’t afford it either.

These are just my thoughts for now I haven’t had time to get to a meeting or anything I’m just trying to make it through the day and wait for the phone call :sleepy_face:

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Good news he decided to come back home,

The neighbor was able to pick him up today and now he is at home sleeping no doubtedly he probably did not sleep at all last night!

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Thank goodness he was able to connect with his neighbor, and what an angel she is to help him.

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Yes I’m so thankful!

What an impact even one person can make as we all know how extremely isolating this disease can be so even to have just one person in their corner :heart:

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It’s heartbreaking. What are we supposed to do? The law currently prevents my sister from getting the help that she needs. It’s like treating a kid sick with a high fever who denies that he’s sick and won’t take Tylenol fever reducer. It’s hard to watch.

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Many of us wish there were a way to convince our loved ones to accept treatment. People suffering from this cruel disorder usually experience their first psychotic break as young adults. The law assumes that, as adults, they are competent to manage their own care, even when this clearly is not the case.

I see three possible strategies you can take: (1) Use the tools of LEAP (see below) to get your sibling to accept that treatment is essential, even if the sole motivation is doing it to please you. This option tends to take a long time and there’s no guarantee of success. (2) Convince your sibling that she has a physical health issue and essentially trick her into seeing a medical professional who can administer antipsychotics for her “ailment.” This is the morally most questionable option, with no guarantee the medical professional will go along with it for ethical and legal reasons. And you risk losing whatever trust your sibling has in you. But this kind of persuasion/ trickery has worked for some people. (3) Wait until your sister expresses or acts out violence or threats, and call the authorities. A judge may rule that she must accept treatment or face jail time. But that judge and the intake psychologist also may decide that she poses no actual threat and send her home. Here, too, the obvious drawback is that you stand to lose whatever trust she has in you, but for some people this is the only way they will get treated.

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Thank you for listening, understanding, and responding.

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