It has helped me too. You and I are not alone!
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@Dreamscape password lock and firm resolve
@Dreamer1 about the behaviors you describedā¦āsmashing the computer?ā ā¦or maybe being retarded ā¦but also cunning" ?? I would be talking to his doctor about all of thisā¦these can still be some different symptoms if not sz then something else?..as for the computer can it be in a locked room that only you can go into? just an ideaā¦ as for my son he is 32 but emotionally he is about 14 or 15 which is when he began to get ill and use drugsā¦so I am often dealing with a willful teen but is never so serious that I canāt handle it now that he doesnāt seek drugs anymore and has no access to money without me knowing about itā¦itās usually just small stuff and I donāt sweat much of the small stuff. My son has been diagnosed with disorganized schizophrenia, borderline personality disorder, drug induced brain damage, and he is considered to be on the autism spectrum, and then he has had 2 atypical grand mal seizures which thankfully are now under control but when he had each of them they put him into a coma each timeā¦first for 24 hours and the second was about 8 hoursā¦so ā¦I have a mixed bag with my sonā¦but through the years the sz diagnosis has been the star of the showā¦and thankfully clozapine keeps that in its place pretty well.
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you and others here have my full sympathy and I think understanding about how had it is. Ive been payee for 10 plus years and after all this time we have no real friends left, and nobody to step in after me Iām 75 and stepson is 52 I try to be fairly nonconfortational, but at the same time I;m GOING to stay in charge or he;s out. and he knows it I think. yes he has 2 worlds going on full time and I refuse to play the game. I just get up and go into my room and close the door. most of the time he quiets down and either goes out to clean up in the yard orsettles down in front of the tv, and everything is suddenly ok!!! iām the one who cant just shift gears so fast, it aint perfect but we seem to survive the occasional flare up. but I do have a limit and have been very close to it more than once, but dammit I AM the one in charge and that aint gonna change or hes out om a one way ticket and I MEAN it!!! I donāt think tough love is wrong, at least not in this situation. good luck to us all
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Unfortunately, I noticed that now that my son has disability, which I fought for, he no longer is interested in going to clinic to get meds. Before, when he was diagnosed with sz, the I had him apply for disability, I told him how important it was to have doctor evals, meds, appts on record. Well now that he got approved for disability, he no longer needs treatment. At beginning I did go in to talk to doctors about his violence and notes were taken. But he is far out of control now. He tells me awful things on the phone. I do have to let go for my own sanity. Maybe one day, he will hit rock bottom and come back to me for help. He just told me that he removed me as his payee, so now that I donāt have the money anymore, heāll kick me to the curb.
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@Dreamer1 I am really sorry to hear that. Unfortunately the mental illness keeps them from knowing what they need and keeps them from trying to get what they need. They make bad decisions based on their delusions and it is a vicious circle until somebody successfully takes charge of it all. I wish you and your son the best outcome for the future, I truly do. 
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I admire your willfulness. I wish my son could stay home and be content. But he has adhd and cannot stay in. He has to be on the go all the time, itās awful, cuz thatās how he gets in trouble. Even riding the bus, heāll get in a fight over a seat on the bus! Plus, his grandmother is a terrible enabler cuz she feels sorry for him. Heāll call her after I wonāt let him have his way and heāll get what he asked for from her. So she undoes the lesson Iām trying to teach him. So there is no progress and never will be.
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I feel I have to be on the watch for my son to fall back into old behaviors.
He has been maintaining fairly well, but when he stopped taking his morning dose, things have declined a bit. I think out of habit, or having not developed other ways to cope, he broke some things recently when he was having some symptoms and then feeling frustrated about having to be on meds (since he thinks he doesnāt need them.)
I told him (via text) that he needs to calm down and realize he is already on a very low dose, and that the best thing for him to do now is to set a goal or two and just get on with things, and that he should know by now that I am his advocate, not his enemy. Also told him I am not angry, but frustrated that he continues to choose to use shouting and insults when he is not happy about something.
I think he is well enough that he heard what I was saying and has indeed calmed down.
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There are Internet filtering software apps out there that you can purchase: Here is a good site that evaluates the ones available for the PC:
The Best Parental Control Software for 2016
Its a big issue as you can see on the diagnosed forum - of people running away with delusional thinking and searching (and of course, finding - since you can find anything on the internet - support for these delusions).
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