My husband is SZ. If my husband is going through an “episode” unfortunately my son can see it now that he is 8 yrs old. The episodes don’t get extremely bad for now but twice his actions have scared my son. The second incident happened this weekend. When I returned home with my son from dropping his friend off, my husband had locked the screen itself and the door. He heard us knocking and opened the door to say he is not letting us in and shut the door back. My son starting getting frantic and I tried to consule him reminding him i had my car, wallet, etc. I could do what i need to do but not before trying to get inside again. I went around back and as i finally got that door unlocked my husband noticed and slammed it back. I unlocked it again with a key and screamed to him that he is scaring my son. My husband then let us in. He demands that “pack my stuff and leave”. I tell him no that he can go live with his mom which he won’t do. His mom lives 3 hrs away and they don’t get alone. And, he won’t leave because he says that is HIS house, not mine. It is both of our house by the way.
this had my son sick to his stomach. It scared him. My question is, i have options here but not sure which to do:
- leave but will he wither away if i leave him to be by himself. He wants me to leave but don’t understand that if i leave he has not utilities or entertainment nor food.
- find him help, but how?
- Just live with the situation, but will it get worse? I don’t feel it is fair to my son either.
For my son’s sake, i feel i should leave. But I am concerned he won’t take care of himself. And sadly, he would be perfectly fine living in a hot house with no food. But That is not good for any human. Plus, i don’t want to leave him when he is at his lowest times. That is selfish of me right?
So question, what do you think my husband would do if i left. I feel like he would stay there in the extreme conditions and get sicker. Also, if i stay how can i bring this up to him that he is showing my son this sad episode? I forgot to mention, my husband is in denial that there is even a problem. He has not seen a doctor and will not get out of the house to see a doctor or anyone. And, the reason i know he has paranoid SZ is i wrote a note to his doctor which in turn called me to tell me what he knew it was. I wrote him all things weird my husband did or said.