My suggestions are probably not ethical and probably not popular with anyone —but before my son became compliant and then eventually stabilized. I would literally say or do anything to get his meds in him on time as prescribed. I would not take no for an answer. It was an unpleasant time. I realize this does not work for everyone, or maybe rarely anyone.
I also got legal guardianship of my son early on (when he was 21, which gave me some rights as to what I could insist on or not and a front row seat to his medical care. I often would say if he wanted to go with me someplace or he wanted another pack of cigarettes or a pop, I would say, as soon as I see you take your medicine we’re good. I wasn’t above bribing, stretching the truth somewhat saying that the medicines absolutely had to be taken a certain way or a certain time for safety sake, because he did have issues with “safety of things”. It helped that I could sit in on the appointments with his doctor because if I had sent him in alone he would have been quiet and said that nothing was wrong and that he was just fine. Then I got the full floor show when he was at home.
Anyway, he got very mad at me all the time because after he told the doctor he was fine I would say well, doc he is still hearing voices and he still thinks the government is watching us and he unplugged all the electrical items in the house yesterday and took all the light bulbs out of the lamps and he made cereal with mayo and ketchup for lunch. The doctor was glad to have correct information.
Then the doctor would adjust the medications and stress to my son that he HAD to take them and I got the doctor on board with saying to take them correctly and on time for “safety sake” which was in and of itself not a lie, but it was in a round-a-about way of exploiting one of his fears but for his own advantage.
This was around 10 years ago and today my son is stable today, no voices or any major delusions, mostly just some negative symptoms but he manages his medications by himself and does an excellent job. He takes clozapine 125 mg 2X a day and depakote 1000 mg 2X a day and 1 mg benztropine at night. Today he has no memory of being angry at me for all the times I spoke on his behalf or made him take his meds or bribed him or with held things he wanted until he complied. Today he is happy and will tell you so and recently he told me how thankful he was that I stuck with him while as he puts it " he was a butthead" <–his words not mine. I love that guy, he is 35 now and still lives with me and likely always will but he can take care of all his basic living needs himself so long as he has me around to bounce his thoughts off of and often I am there for direction or redirection and reality checks when needed. I am the only companion he will trust or accept. I hope someday magically that changes but I am not holding my breath on it. Still if you ask him he will tell you he is a happy person and content. Good luck @hermana80, I wish you well. PS Weight gain and sleeping a lot is to be expected with many medications, once the medicines stabilize the patient or at least once they stabilized my son he was able to exercise and be more conscious of what he ate and much of the weight came off and although my son has always been a long sleeper his whole life he is now able to go to bed and get up with ease and doesn’t sleep much past 10 hours ever…great compared to the 18 hours of sleep a day in the beginning. anyway, best of luck.