Exactly Leiann! I was so determined to not be the middle man anymore that I told my husband he had to attend Family to Family. He skipped out on three of the classes - which is a lot of material. He said it all made him sad. I end up dealing with his pain and idiocy and our son’s mental illness.
I think slw said her husband got better in his forties, my husband got somewhat better in his 40’s also.
Recently, during the big episode, he told me, that he thinks we can get through anything together. He needs to keep that in mind, because not taking care of Jeb, is not an option.