I did say that. The delusional stuff went away & he's getting better around our son. I think the better around our son is a few things. Our son got worse this year, so you'd have to be a moron to not admit he was really, really ill. I went through menopause, so my hormones aren't up & down anymore which really stabilize my emotions, so I don't tolerate any craziness about our son now. If it starts, either he can leave or we will leave - but I don't let it go on, and I'm very blunt about how he can't be there if he's making things worse. And, the fact that they're only together one or two days a week gives them both some space & cooling off time.
He is still just about as bad with other things, like handling things when something's gone wrong. He still complains a lot when he's doing things he doesn't want to do, and he gets just as aggravated with other drivers.
But, he's getting better as he gets older. Maybe part of it is he's starting to feel old & tired like the rest of us.
I wonder if we went back in time, with me knowing what I know now, if things would have been different - if I had reacted differently to his paranoia/etc from the start.