Hi everyone. I’m new. I haven’t found many places where I can have an honest, open discussion.
My husband has recently been diagnosed with paranoid schizoaffective. He manages himself well, but prior to the diagnosis, he would get very angry, and started to get violent. Now that he’s on medication, he has no sex drive, and zero interest in me (or much of anything). He doesn’t talk to me, and has told me that he doesn’t really care about me…yet can’t imagine life without me?
I’m 27, he’s 28.
We had been trying for a child for over 7 years before his diagnosis, and recently, I had a total hysterectomy. I still want a child in my life so badly. My sister has offered to be a gestational carrier for an adopted embryo, which I want to do. However, I struggle with that decision since I’m also the main caretaker of my husband.
I don’t really know why I’m posting - maybe to just hear that other people are here and have spouses of similar diagnoses?
Does it get better? Does he get less apathetic without getting more angry? How can I help him? His psychiatrist won’t change his medication because we found one that kept him from getting violent, even though he seems to feel like a zombie…