Thanks for the replies. He isn’t yet diagnosed, can’t work and at this point can’t care for himself. I’m not sure I want to share details here even though this is anonymous but I will say, he has delusions and hallucinations that he thinks are fully real and afflicting physical harm on him. This is preventing him from even going to a grocery store, remembering to bath, talking at some points, walking without gate issues, carrying on concentration, etc. He doesn’t have social services like SSI. He has no income or doctor/treatment plan or even a diagnosis. I am enabling this behavior and taking care of him. I’ve been ignoring the delusion because it’s very specific. Otherwise he is the most logical and intelligent person I know. He’s been going to specialist for help with the physical symptoms without telling them about the psychological. He said he would be honest with the doctors but after 3+ specialist (not in realm of mental health) he omitted the psychological aspects of his illness because he thinks they can’t help. This is very real and scary for him as I don’t need to explain here. He has gotten progressively worse in the almost 3 years we’ve been together. I have recently informed him that I can’t support him any longer and that he needs help. I am still going to be a support but I need to work on myself as the last couple of years has taken a toll on me. I’m not breaking up with him, just forcing him into treatment which feels awful.
I just am torn. I have told his mother and she is fairly convinced his issues are drug related (we live together and I’m not convinced… As far as I know he has not done drugs in some time (year) although I am not naive and know there is always a possibility). I want to make sure a psychiatrist can evaluate with all known information. I’m just not sure he or his mom will get that information to his doctor. He has agreed to go see someone for me but not because he thinks it will help. I am so very proud of him and know that he can, with lots of work, get the support he needs. It will be a long road but all of that hinges on his honesty with the doctors.
I’m just broken up about this, I have written down a history of his issues related or even not related which he has actually helped me create. I think I’m going to just print and try and convince him to just give the paper to the doctor himself. I know that is asking a lot of him. But I also am hopeful that he can then get properly diagnosed, SS assistance, medications or treatment plans, etc.