I’ve lived with having a mentally ill brother for as long as I can remember. I know there has been a medical diagnosis of something at some point but would never dream of asking because everything has always been either my fault or none of my business. He no longer sees a doctor for whatever it is & likely only ever did briefly. As we’re both grown adults now, I’ve severed all ties because he’s so toxic and awful with no wish to seek help. Recently I’ve been sent some horrible emails. Vile. Letting me know he won’t be attending my funeral etc. I haven’t engaged but he & our mom stay in touch. He likes to threaten & who knows what he could be capable of. Where we live, we don’t have involuntary admission to help get him any help, it’s strictly voluntary. Anyway, from what I’ve read, it sounds so familiar & I’m curious to know if this sounds like it to any of you & if you have any advice at all.
-extremely paranoid about everyone talking behind his back.
-brings up petty things that hurt him from decades ago, blowing up into rages.
-always smells of b.o. & doesn’t seem to be bothered.
-has times of speaking a million miles a minute & needs all focus on him.
-times of depression but never shares his feelings.
-has never held down a job, finished a course, met a goal.
-HATES all authority.
-tends to get attracted to drugs more often than not.
-creates messes everywhere he goes, room to room.
-cannot handle any eye contact.
-doesn’t sit still, not even long enough to share a meal.
-inappropriate & socially awkward.
Thank you for any advice you may have, mainly to pass on to my mom to keep her safe.