Hi all… Ive posted once before here and now I am back. I would really like to have feedback from caregivers who have experienced this before. My SIL is living with us who was recently released from the hospital after a temporary hold of(what we know of) to be her first psychotic break. She has no job, evicted from her apartment, and has bad habits of blowing away any money she has. I understand this is part and partial to the disorder. She is borderline Schizophrenic but has been diagnosed with Paranoid Personality Disorder, a sleeping disorder, and something else dealing with depression. It is a bad mix.
So far she has had a man in her life giving her money whenever she asked. She has been manipulative and lied to him for a good portion of the ways telling him she needed 500$ here fro rent or 600$ for her car note, when in turn she spent it on clothing, getting her nails done, hair appointments and other things that dealt with her delusions at the moment. He has been told to stop giving her money or if she asks for some to tel us. He is a bad road to turn down due to his disbelief she was ever ill to begin with. He neglected all the red flags she threw up in the past year that led to her breakdown. Her constant talk of stalkers, one wanting to rape her, and the FBI looking for her. He is a moron in my book. (so angry with this person right now) However i know she would tell him truths about her delusions and let him know what was happening in her head on a daily basis… so we allowed him to be a part of the treatment process in the hopes that by us educating him on what to look for we could have a back door into her head if she slipped again.
Well that went to sh*t real fast. Unfortunately he lied to us and continued to give her money and she manipulated him by lying to him and telling him we were not helping her do anything. I had my fill of lies and dishonesty in my house.
We shut the man down. Told him if he wanted to continue to give her money than he needed to drive from his state to ours to pick her up and take care of her like he should. We also confronted my SIL. It did not go well but i did not expect it to. She threw up all the walls and misleading she could. I gave her rule to live in my house… one my mother taught us as teenagers and adults… to live here you must have a job. I did not plan on giving her gas money every time she decided to drive to east tn to just get away from us. You have to start saving for a place to live… we can not financially afford it. We barely can afford her living in our house now, but better than her on the street/jail/hospital/or dead.
How can i help her find financial assistance if she does not believe she has a disorder? Her credit is wrecked… too many outstanding bills and I’m sure she hasn’t paid for much of anything over the last year. There is no talk of seeing a clinician for assistance. she either wants someone else to pay for it or let it go.
I’m getting close to my wits end. I’m a complete and total btch when needed, which she is vocally harsh to me and my relationship with her brother. Fearing she will begin to drive a wedge between us. He has been manipulated by her before as well. So I’ve been a btch, i don’t let people walk on me. But I’m not soulless to kick her out my house completely.