Yes, that is the truth, @Spu .
I have a success story in that my daughter is doing so very well on the monthly injection that the fortunes of life enabled me to get her on and keep her on. My heart is at peace with myself, despite calling police on her, pressing charges, “tricking” her into treatment, etc. over the years.
However, the cost to me personally and to others in our circle was high. Her two brothers rarely, if ever, speak to her or to me. Her step-sister NEVER speaks to her. They moved out of the house during her psychotic years. Her friends are ALL gone, due to psychotic events they witnessed. Her own grandmother didn’t speak to her for years and now has only once this year. My own friends fled the scene during the 2.75 years I was consumed with trying to get my daughter on meds. One still calls me once per month. My husband became a serious alcoholic from a binge drinker and still is now, though fights it off sometimes. I have thyroid issues and blood pressure issues and high cholesterol now. I gained 20 pounds that I can’t get off. My quality of life is much lower as now I am supporting her AND my husband, both who don’t work enough to contribute much.
BUT, I HAD to try and help her, my own decision. So the result is as good as it could be.
A journal of those years is still in my filing cabinet. It was useful to show police when I called to try to get her Baker Acted. @hope4us is correct to urge the use of one. My daughter’s is empty now of “events” for 1.5 years now, a blessing. My husband’s however, has many drunken “events” and even arrests from my calling the police on him.
I think @Feelingalone that you must put your child’s welfare ahead of your husband’s. It is healthy for no one to be around the unpredictability of psychosis. Of course you care about your husband and always will, but he is the one that wants a divorce and won’t seek treatment. No one here will judge you no matter what choice you make, but if there is any chance of your child being hurt, or you being hurt, by your husband, that is paramount to resolve.
This is a long post, I apologize, but wanted to say these things.