Hey, I’m just wondering if anyone knows on average how long it takes for meds to stabilise and bring someone ‘back’ so to speak?
My partner who is highly functioning had been off meds for 9 months and gradually deteriorated. He finished with me suddenly one month ago but went back on meds a few days after. It has been increased three times since then.
Friends think he’s doing okay and whilst he does seem to be overall, he still shows no emotion, particularly about the end of the relationship which is highly unusual since he’s a very emotional guy. He has also given up a hobby of his which he loves and has been heavily involved in for the past three years.
Within the last week I’ve been so upset over everything that I took to ignoring his messages, calls and him if I saw him. This resulted in him thinking he imagined me and I wasn’t real, so I had to tell his medical team and as a result, his meds were increased again.
He asked to meet me a few nights ago which I did. One minute he was being so affectionate, and the next he was pushing me away again, like I was a total stranger.
My therapist advised me to stop contact if I was continuing to become so upset by contact with him. However all I want is to help him recover and realise the wonderful relationship we had, as together, we had overcome so many of his issues.
Yesterday he sent me pretty hurtful messages about just wanting me on a physical level only. After years of friendship and a relationship where we both planned marriage and kids, those messages broke my heart so I stopped replying as I was hurt and disgusted, as I felt I no longer knew who he was.
Then last night he messaged me again saying he was so mixed up, that he wants a life with me but needs to stand on his own two feet and be independent. I replied and said he could have both. The messages then turned again to saying he then just wanted me on a physical level and he abruptly ended the conversation.
I’m so confused. It’s like any time I try to put some distance between us, he keeps contacting me. I promised myself yday after his mean messages, that I was giving up but then when he sent me messages about being so mixed up, I couldn’t help but reply as I desperately want to help him.
His medical team although saying he’s very sick, don’t seem to care too much as he’s pretty highly functioning, polite and not aggressive with them. But that’s not enough IMO - what about the beautiful mind and soul inside that has just shut down. It breaks my heart that we’re both losing our happy future together.
My question is, does anyone know how long it takes for someone to come back? Like I mentioned, he’s been on meds for almost a month now and the latest increase was four days ago.