I’m sorry this situation is happening for you…I understand how difficult it can be with parents who are in denial and who are not doing what may be in everyone’s best interests. I also understand how it feels when your parents do not want to hear you.
I was 15 when my sister had her first psychotic episode and it was not expected by us. She was in psychiatric care for months and has several episodes requiring months of hospitalisation since then. I was never and have never been asked about what I think about her care by my parents who are stubbornly minded. I am 36 now and still struggle with the consequences of lack of family communication and openness, despite my parents wanting to do the best for me and my sister.
Fortunately for my sister, she has over the last few years been getting better and enjoys life and has friends and goes out to town by herself and has developed hobbies that she loves. She still lives with my parents.
I have only just joined this forum so I noticed you put this post up a while ago…so maybe the situation is different now? How old are you?
I know the heaviness and pain of watching something like this happen and not feeling able to say how you feel about it and not being listened too. All I can say is remember that your opinion is as important as your parents. For me, saying what I thought to my parents caused frustration and resentment on my part as they are so unable to share and communicate in a healthy way. They have been in denial of my sisters condition also and even don’t believe in medication. They have reduced her medication against advice and refused to listen to consultants too. However, even though I cannot force them to listen to me or acknowledge that what I think is worth listening too, in looking for my own inner peace it helped me to say what I thought to them. Everyone’s parents are different and only you can know how far you want to say what you think.
The other thing I found was invaluable was reaching out to others outside of your family…even if it’s just one person to talk to. I talked to a teacher at the time and now some friends I have been able to talk to, as well as CBT therapists. It helps just to share what you are going through because of your siblings illness, even if it not a way to change your parents attitudes.
I hope this is a little bit helpful. Remember to look after yourself too.