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How to help my schizophrenic boyfriend

Hi everyone.
First of all this is my very first post here and also English is not my mother language so please excuse me for possible mistakes.

I’m feeling sad and very emotional tonight thinking of my boyfriend who has schizophrenia. He is 35 living with his parents (not possible at my place for the moment) no job. I had him on the phone today and he uttered maybe ten words, even though he was very sweet I could feel his sadness and extreme sleepiness.

He has “good” moments and I absolutely cherish them, he’s a great beautiful man but I’m wondering what I can do to help him (and our relationship) when he’s completely apathetic. When he comes at my place he usually brightens up at first, he loves to cook for me and seems overly happy when I let him take care of the dog so I do it whenever I feel he has enough presence to be trusted with my girl. Then the cycle continues and he just goes back to almost complete silence and listening to the same music over and over and over. I don’t really mind because I’m quite solitary myself so I grab a book and wait for him to come back when he can.

But I wonder if I’m just letting the situation flow as it is and if there isn’t something more I can do. I can’t really talk to his parents because we don’t have a common language.

Any advice would be great.

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I think you guys sound like you have a good relationship
It sounds like are very caring and understanding
I feel that if children are in your future, it may be important for you to start researching what you could be letting yourself in for

I’m married and I’m schizophrenic but my husband never wanted children
I’m sorry I didn’t really want to say this at all
but it can and does work for some people

Sorry to hear about your boyfriend, recovery is possible.

I’ve had a history of severe mental illness but managed to get better and no longer take any medication, work part time 2 jobs (before covid lol) and actually enjoy my life with my girlfriend and look forward to the future. If he would like some ideas on how to get better here’s a link to my short essay

Link: http://media.yoism.org.s3.amazonaws.com/CakeTheory.pdf

Also I have a YouTube Channel where I air my views. Good Luck>

.https://www.youtube.com/user/caketheory