Hi everybody,
As I am working through letting go of my wife, I am making some videos about being a carer which I am posting on instagram. None of it is professional advice, just rambling, but I will appreciate any feedback:
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It’s good advice, and it seems to be good therapy for you so please keep it up. I agree that carers are indeed good, empathetic, kind people. That’s true particularly of romantic partners, where there’s no underlying bond of unconditional love and responsibility like that with parents and closely related individuals. No question that some people are more inclined to excuse and accept abuse that others. I think it comes from deep empathy, but there may be more there as well. That’s why therapy for yourself is so important, since even if/when you cut things off officially, you will need to work on yourself and rebuild your own self-esteem and confidence. I hope you have already started that process with someone trained in this area.
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I am getting support from the local domestic abuse organisation now, as I am deemed to be a victim of domestic abuse apparently. I feel like a fraud, but apparently I am a victim.
I have posted more videos. I am being frank. I am making these videos for carers, not people with the conditions:
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Hi, I just wanted to say that I think it is good you are getting support from the local domestic abuse organization. You are not a fraud! You put up with emotional challenges to help your wife. I had to learn what was considered domestic violence and what wasn’t after the police arrested my husband in June after he threw a bottle at me and hit me with it. Any type of abuse is good to recognize and handle the effects of on yourself.
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