@Jaxy , I feel there is nothing wrong if you want to find supported living for your son. In fact, I think it might be a good idea. Especially if you, yourself, are now struggling to maintain a satisfactory life for yourself. Here in America, supported living is not an option for me. I searched, but found none in Florida.
If I’d found a supported living arrangement I could have gotten my daughter into, I would have done it. (She is 35 and ill for 3 years now, with partial sanity on meds the last 3 months only.) She is still not capable of being independent.
This illness requires more than one person, in my opinion, to provide care and solve the problem. If the person is med resistant, it definitely is more than one person can handle for very long. I was pulling my hair out and sinking into depression myself for the unsolvable situation I was in, until my daughter got herself arrested, the jail sent her to a psych hospital, and they force medicated her with a 30 day shot that is working, with a court order for her to continue meds. So far 3 months of peace. However, if the meds fail or she fails to continue taking them, I have no option for long term care and I will again fall into hopelessness as there seems to be no other solution.
Do what you have to do to care for yourself, and secondarily to try to give your son a life. However, I feel you should not risk your own health or happiness to try and save your son’s chance for independence. His independence may never occur.