I am new here, I have been in a relationship with my schizophrenic boyfriend for almost two years now, living together for about 18 months. I love him, but some days (like today) I don’t feel like I can do it anymore, and maybe I don’t want to.
He isn’t taking his medication as he is supposed to, and as gently as I have been trying to suggest he take it he hasn’t listened. He gets angry with me, blames me for his illness, says I am making him sick. He asks me repeatedly if I am mad at him, or what my problem is, but despite telling him I am not mad, he keeps believing I am, and so he gets angry with me.
He says many hurtful things, and when I reach my breaking point and end up crying he gets even angrier with me for crying. The worst part of all of it is that he phones his relatives daily and tells them how horrible I am, how I am always fighting with him.
I do everything I can to avoid expressing my feelings to him, because he considers that an argument. He has on many occasions yelled at me while I have said nothing and in the end accused me of fighting with him without me uttering a single word.
When he is normal he is the nicest most loving man I have ever met, but inside of him is a monster. It is like living with Jekyll and Hyde. And when he is experiencing his delusions he is frightening, so frightening that I sometimes feel like my life is in danger, in fact he has threatened to hurt/kill me on multiple occasions.
I left him once and went to a shelter, but he apologized and said he was sorry and how he can’t control it, how he wanted me to come home, how he loved me and he would take medication.
He is now taking it, but not how he is supposed to. He just started the abilify injection, and was told to keep taking the pills because the injection wont kick in for a couple of weeks, but he has been refusing to take them.
I feel like I am constantly walking on eggshells, and as much as I love him and want to be here for him and help him, I just don’t know how much of this I can take.
I would appreciate any advice about my situation, I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t know if it’s worth it anymore.