My boyfriend was hospitalised for a month, no visitors allowed. Before he was sent to hospital, the police called me but he wouldn’t talk to me. Nobody told me he was going to hospital, so I was a nervous wreck. You can read my previous posts
It’s been two months since he’s been discharged. We’re still together but I feel incredibly lonely - he barely talks to me, no libido, no passion. I haven’t had sex in 4 months. Says he’s feeling emotionally flat and tired, I know that’s normal for post psychosis but my God it’s so hard. He’s still affectionate and gentle, he was at least sweet enough to get me a present for Valentine’s Day. How long is it going to take for our relationship to go back to normal?
I get so angry sometimes because none of this would have happened if he stayed sober, I was so furious at him for taking edibles, for putting his life on the line and making me go through so much stress and anxiety, so much uncertainty. I had to go into work everyday, pretending that I’m alright and trying to stop myself from breaking down infront of everyone while he was gone. I’m so desperate to talk to him about this - because I don’t think I can go through this again. But he’s still sick, so it’s not the right time. I can handle him having another episode but NOT like this - this was the worst he’s ever been and it’s his fault for being so fucking reckless. He has done it on himself. His sister said he was in such a bad state, it scared the shit out of her and she has raised him herself.
My boyfriend thought he could live by himself but of course his neighbour had to be a dealer. My worst nightmare. I knew he would end up buying weed, I don’t live with him btw. He’s so predictable sometimes. He says he’s slowly coming back but I don’t know how long that’s going to take
I am so sorry, having a steady relationship with someone living with schizophrenia is so difficult.
We families are always told “welcome to the new normal” as, at times, our family members seem to be trying to establish a life on moving sand. With or without supportive meds, a person living with schizophrenia will cycle through different challenges.
Eventually, I learned to accept and support Mike with whatever challenges the day was presenting for him.
Sorry you’re in this situation, @km1266 . For my son, recovery from a psychotic episode has taken up to about six months. Of course this varies with the episode and the person. For more support you may want to consider attending Al-Anon Al-Anon Meeting Search - Al-Anon Family Groups and NAMI http://nami.org/ meetings. They both were a huge help when our family really needed it. I also found individual therapy beneficial. There also may be support groups associated with the mental health and substance use disorder services within your local health department.
I’ve wondered the wondered the same thing! “When can we get back to normal?” Or “how long will this take?” Etc…I’ve read with them following treatment about 5-6 months and we should be back on track. That seems so daunting especially because this is my husbands first (and hopefully last) episode of psychosis. It just…happened! Why can’t it go back just as suddenly! Unfortunately, the brain doesn’t really work that way :sigh: I will personally say that AlAnon didn’t work for me. Their structure and beliefs behind the program didn’t sit well with me- focus on yourself and what you can do about you … it just didn’t work for me. But so many benefit from it! Individual therapy is what helps me, personally. I honestly wish I had a close friend who was dealing with the same thing but I don’t. I don’t open up to a lot of people to begin with so only 1:3 people I’ve told about what we are going through truly understand it or want to understand it and don’t judge it/us. It’s a very lonely experience for me thus far. I need my husband to get better! I miss him. I miss my best friend.