I’ve had that too and it isn’t helpful, after so many times of reminding my husband he was not helping to have him match our son’s yelling he stopped doing it, it was very stressful to have them both acting the same way especially when my husband considered himself ‘normal’, he was making it worse. Some men might think yelling is a sign of strength and it’s not, on the contrary is a sign of weekness. I know what you are saying and feel.
Our son was yelling and accusing me the same way as your son but we have learned not to take it personally, it’s the illness taking over. And it’s easier to blame everyone else. He’s frustrated ‘with his lot’.
We don’t have the luxury to think about vacations ever, last time we were on vacation was 11 years ago and our son didn’t want to go with us, that was the beginning of him being in and out of the hospital, prior to that he had been a little bit more consistent with his meds though he had been committed at the State hospital already for about 6 months by then.
We had to make changes to adjust to what we have.
I like the post (list of do’s and don’ts) this kind lady put together, this is what I learned to do myself after almost 30 years of navigating this long journey.
I read it yesterday and it’s excellent.
We don’t have family gatherings in our house but we can meet somewhere else, I had to put away the glass and use recycling plastic, many changes to list.
They vent by yelling, we come to the forum for support and being able to get out of our chest what’s very uncomfortable, please feel free to do so as you need, some caregivers have very good counsel.
Take care. I pray that you are able to look beyond what’s at the present moment and that you have strength to face the day. Hugs to you.