@Love_Hope, I’m so very sorry to hear that and thank you so much for saying my son is lucky. I think he’s pretty lucky too, I would give him the world if I could, although the reciprocation is virtually non-existent. I attribute it to meds and sz.
I don’t know your situation 100% (although I’ve been following your story), speaking for myself, unless I was in some sort of danger, I don’t think I could ever completely distance myself from my son. Even if I was in danger, it would take a few serious situations for me to finally just walk away. Even if he refused my help and pushed me away, I would ceaselessly try, over and over. This I’m sure is easier said than done, and I thank god that I never experienced this.
I guess the bottom line is I think a child/parent relationship is different from a husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. I think, for me, it would be easier to walk away from a boyfriend or husband, but still difficult.
I think where our children are involved, there’s more of a vulnerability there. I feel even our adult children with sz need to know that his/her parent is there. Forever.
Hoping you find some peace, especially during the holiday.