I am so sorry you and your son are going through this. This forum is a really helpful place! I have learned so much here.
What helped my son the most was finding a really good outpatient psychiatrist who has experience with psychosis and will really listen and make adjustments. In my son’s case, we tried a lot of doctors who didn’t have much experience with cases like him, partly because he was an adolescent and everyone said depression or ADHD, which was wishful thinking, probably.
I started calling the heads of departments at Columbia and Weill Cornell hospitals. I finally got the name of an amazing practice in Manhattan. This turned my son’s life around and I wish I had done this years earlier. He does his appointments virtually.
I’m not sure if this will be helpful to you, but for my son the right doctor was everything. If your son would agree to a monthly injection, that seems to work for lots of family members here. My son ended up on Clozapine, which if other medicines don’t work can be amazing. Even with medication, it’s not like before, but manageable.
Is your son willing to sign a release so that his psychiatrist, etc. can talk to you?
Sending positive thoughts. This is such a horrible disease, but this group is a good place to be.