My boyfriend has ran away

You think the relationship is grear and I don’t doubt it, but plase remember what I told you…maybe with this disruptive behavior he is trying to escape exactly the relationship because it is too much for him. Also my relationship was great…and yet he escaped many times and he is scared of it because it is too good, serious, stable…for them it’s easier to be on their own it seems. Think about it and keep it in mind

I honestly don’t know.

He only pushes me away when he’s smoking weed because he gets rude, irritable and prickly when he’s stoned. Alcohol is his main issue but at least when he’s drunk he’s still affectionate. He gets alcohol cravings, so I think he’s turning to weed because he’s trying not to drink. He said he was looking to get CBD because it’s not psychoactive.

He usually wants to talk to me everyday too, I can tell he gets lonely at times. Not so long ago, he had an episode ( not drug induced ) and he said I comforted him. My boyfriend has said that he doesn’t want to lose me and that he really values me. I think a possibility of him running away from the relationship would be that he’s protective and a bit insecure at times. The weight gain from Olanzapine has messed his confidence, he thinks he’s not attractive anymore :sob:

I hope it never happens but I appreciate the honest warning

Okay just wanted to give a update: It’s been a month since my boyfriend has been hospitalised. I messaged his sister earlier on today and she said he’s finally allowed visitors.

I got him a few things to cheer him up. I hope he doesn’t mind me visiting, I miss him very much.

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I tried to ring the ward so I could visit him, but they said they needed permission from his consultant. I messaged his sister, she was confused -she told my boyfriend that I was planning on visiting him and that he wanted to see me. I rang them again, told them what his sister told me - they said they needed permission from her.

His sister got in touch with them, they said that my boyfriend only started to make progress this week, they want to see how he gets on with his family before they allow me to visit. The ward will let his sister know when I can visit and she’ll text me.

I told his sister that I got him a few things, she said he would love that. Poor woman was scared, wasn’t allowed to see him for three weeks. She raised my boyfriend herself so she’s practically his mother. I’m sure it’s hard on his nieces because they adore him. At least he’s getting better

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I noticed my boyfriend was online today, so I called him and he picked up. His speech is slurred because he’s loaded with medication, he doesn’t remember how he landed in hospital. I told him I was happy to hear from him and that I’m glad he’s safe, he said he was happy to hear from me too.

I’m gonna call him again next week to see how he’s doing.

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