My son is doing well with maintaining the kitchen and doing his laundry. (Dishwashers and also detergent pods are wonderful things.) We will work on bathroom maintenance next (I’m doing it for now). He usually watches me if I cook, and is starting to have the confidence to do some multi-step cooking - past scrambling some eggs or making mac and cheese.
OKay… the way you describe his behaviour, buying him a place would be the best thing that ever happened to him, if you’d leave him alone with it. He sounds stable, in the way you described him, going to thew woods, to have some peace of mind and stuff… Just the very simple idea of always(!) having a place to stay is a big boost in life-quality no matter who you are.
He needs a group home
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I also think he needs a group home first and then transition himself to the apartment your leasing for him.
I would get him an apartment or a place to stay but under certain conditions: like once a week group therapy, or to allow a caretaker to come to the house, maybe just you, to check on things and make sure he takes his pills. It might actually benefit him a lot! When I got an apartment it helped me become more social and I got three years of college out of the way and just finished paying off my student loan.
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I think both my son and I are experiencing an increase of peace of mind. He had to go to the hospital a while back,and it was relief for both of us to know he had a place to return to afterward, and that we would not be having to battle other tenants or a landlord. Even when there are other tenants who are understanding, it just takes one to get fearful, and the landlord “for safety” will side with them.
We have done multiple residential settings, but none of them have every really suited my son’s needs or the lifestyle he would like to live.
ay ay, i’ll try to behave
He is lucky to have a mom like you. What about a rehabilitation center for awhile to get him stable on meds, therapy and group support. He is going to need lots of help and support, a home ownership is priceless for a kid… Also, legal advice would help and doctors and professional therapists would help here too.
I would buy him the place. I am planning to buy a place for my son, too, eventually. But what we have agreed is to buy a cheap house, which is not in good condition,he will do it up, then we buy another, and so on. We can’t afford it for a couple of years but he has got really motivated and started doing laboring work to learn how to do up houses so he’s earning money and very hopeful now. I also intend to put a house in trust for him and any children he has. That way he cannot end up homeless even if he gets married, has kids and divorces. Homelessness is a big risk for men after divorce. Also, btw, I read some research that said that stable housing is the single biggest factor in recovery for people with sz and/or addictions.
I am an older sister to my brother that is sz, he still lives with my Dad. Dad is 86 now, gettin in frail health. I’m not sure what I will be able to do to help my brother’s living situation one day. He does trash the house terribly. Turns off heat, cuts electical wiring. There is no phone, he abused that right by calling long distance to everywhere around the world. My brother does take his meds. He rarely goes out. Rides a bike and never drives. My father has al the legal rights so I can not help so far. He does get ssi. Are group homes around? I do not see many in Michigan.
It’s really hard on a mentally ill person to take he or she out of the environment from which he or she lives. It can be traumatic. Maybe, trying to make sure he is up to date on therapy and meds for our times. There is l new research. Possibly, not just learning about his illness but maybe day groups would help were he is spending the day in a therapeutic environment to help him with some of his behavior and skills, such as, social and life skills.l Mentally ill people I believe have there own language and therefore there own communication. How you communicate to the mental I’ll person will determine how successful he or she becomes in his or her recovery.
Behavioral Health hospitals, Nami.org, a little research online in your area can help with qualified places.
How can you find a conservator of a trust when no relatives are available to be the conservator? I need to set this up as I am 70.
Do it. I would do this if it were my son and I could afford it.
A lawyer should be able to act in this capacity. I assume you already have a will?
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We used friends of the family that were our son’s age as back ups to his brother.