Irene, just wanted let you know that my son is improving at the psychiatric hospital. Taking his meds and a long lasting antipsychotic. They are planning on sending him to a nursing home. He’s waiting for placement. I’m going to see him next week. He likes when I bring a ukulele to play.he’s a good musician. Praying your son also has something helpful happen for him. Take care.
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Hi Carly, Thanks so much for the update. It gives me some hope that maybe some day my son will be in a better place. My son is still in isolation in county jail and now has another felony charge for attacking an officer there. He called yesterday from the jail phone and talked about how I run the jail and that he hopes I end up there and that I molested him as a child and that he doesn’t t have schizophrenia. He was very angry and delusional . Today I am still very upset by his call. I said very little when we talked. Anyways I am glad to hear your son is improving and you can visit him. Keep me posted and I will do the same. Have a good day and I will keep praying. What a hard journey to be their moms, with this severe mental illness. May they and us find some joy today.
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It is outrageous that the judge has not mandated him to a psych ward or mental health hospital to receive compulsory meds. Has your lawyer exhausted all avenues, also at the state level, to make this happen? Why would they prefer to keep a clearly psychotic person in jail when there is a rational, probably cheaper and far more humane alternative?
Hi, I am flabbergasted too! He clearly must be showing sign of being psychotic, he can not be kept in the general inmate population. He has been in solitary for 6 full months! All his hearing have been continued for one reason or another. Last week his hearing was taken off schedule because they had a more important murder case, the month before that he refused to come out of his cell. Supposedly, Monday the lawyer informed me that he was invited to observe mental health court to see if it was a good fit for him. How can anyone in active psychosis for a year make that kind of decision! I am in a state of sadness and panic now, as I don t know what will happen Monday. I can t see why they can t get him stabilized before he has to go to any hearings. I am so afraid for him. He is only just turning 30 and I saw him for a brief minute at some hearing 3 months ago and he looked so awful, like a hardened old man. It is so horrible. Thanks for your reply.
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My son is verbally abusive also. He in on the invaga (sp) shot every 3 weeks plus a mood stabilizer, antidepressant, antianxiety of which he takes when he feels like it. He finally is in a low income apartment but as much as he calls it doesn’t matter..This disease is horrible.
Did the 1/2 way house get rid of him or he left on his own?
That is a very good point, @Carlie.
I guess it’s because many of them can be helped.
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Gigs, my son wasn’t thrown out of the 1/2 way, which surprised me. He is back home and it is still awful. He refuses his meds. Says he just needs to get some sleep. Well, he’s not sleeping cuz he has all those “things” running around in his head! If he would take the meds, he should feel a bit better and sleep! Why he can’t see that is beyond me. He rarely eats, he is skinny as a toothpick. Just smokes alot and drinks energy drinks. If he would cut back on those things, that would surely help his sleeping too. He is making me go crazy!
My heart goes out to you, my son is doing well but he is still complaining about the poison drugs he’s taking he blames the drugs that he cannot do anything so most of the time he lies in bed looking on the internet. He also is gaining quite a bit of weight.
The worry and stress never goes away. I used to have my husband to help and deal with everything but he died from covid now its only me. I have no family or friends for any support.
Sorry for complaining so much. The only ones who understand is this group thank you sending hugs and understanding love and hope
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Hi Margi, I am so sorry you have to go thru this. The worry and anxiety never go away. You always have this forum where people really understand how sad and stressful this disease is, and that is putting it mildly. Hope your day is good and you can take time away from your son and do something you enjoy. Prayers for all of us parents. 
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This is so heartbreaking. To know he suffers with mental health issues plus lost and limb and his eye sight. I don’t even know what to say to you as a mom 
It feels devastating. Thankfully he got out of jail and in psychiatric hospital. They are referring him to a nursing home. It’s a blessing in disguise- they could have put him out on the streets again. So when he gets to the nursing home he can go see the eye doctor and find out what’s wrong. He’ll get some much needed care and follow up appointments . He’s been calling and our conversations are much improved. Praying for peace through acceptance.
Take care and thank you. CarlyB
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Hi Carly, it is very devastating. Things have happened with our sons that we never could have imagined when they were those cute kids. I am glad your son he is out of jail and I pray his suffering lessens. We have to take care of ourselves too, and remember it could be even worse! We didn’t cause it and can t control it. Our lives have to be lived too, sometimes I feel guilty when I do nice stuff because I know my son is suffering,but I know in my heart that my life is I important too. Take care and keep me posted. 
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Irene, I can’t agree more. we have to take really good care of ourselves. No one else can live our lives but us.
There are so many tragic stories on this site and so many loved ones suffering too. I wish that there were better solutions than we have.
It’s a treatable disease. That’s the tragedy because mostly they don’t know what they are doing and don’t know they’re sick. My son doesn’t know what has happened in the last two years. He’s slowly coming round. I’m not young or in my best health. I hope that he stays stable and they find him a nice nursing home.
How is your son doing?
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Hi Carly, my son is still in isolation in jail and I am hoping they can move him to a psychiatric facility soon. I feel very sad about him today, he sometimes is allowed calls on Mondays or Thursdays from jail when they give him an hour out. I didn’t hear from him yet. Yes, so many sad stories on this site, hopefully our son’ can have some semblance of a fulfilled life. We have to take care of ourselves and I am older too at 68, just trying to get thru the day,as after holidays are usually hard for me. Take care 
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Hello everyone. I believe that my son tried to commit suicide by alcohol. If my husband wasn’t home he would have died. My son has not taken his meds for months, refused to see his psychiatrist and has just been living in his bedroom. He got his disability check and decided to buy a LOT of cheap booze and like 4 cans of whipped cream. My husband spoke with him at 11, and he was fine, and at noon heard a strange noise from the bedroom. He ended up finding him with 4 empty liquor bottles and completely non responsive. 911 was called and he has been in the hospital. Whenever he sobers up, he will be baker acted again. The police came and we are going to try the marchment act. I just don’t know what else there is that I can do. Honestly, the system has failed those with mental illness so many times, I don’t have a lot of hope that this time something will click in my son’s brain to make him realize he needs treatment. I think this cycle will just continue. He is suffering so much, I hope he finds peace.
Tippy I am so sorry.
I am so sorry we and our loved ones with this horrible illness have to suffer so unbelievably much. Try to do some self care while your son is in hospital. It is such a sad illness, we have to never give up hope tho, that is what I am told in Nami. My heart goes out to you and your family.
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My son was Baker acted. He is currently in the treatment center. I have no idea when he will be released. The last time I spoke with him he didn’t know why he should be there. He thinks I must have lied to let this happen to him, he was in control the entire time and knew what he was doing. I told him I wasn’t even there and the evidence was right in front of the police and the medics. He ended up hanging up on me. He still is not thinking he needs the meds but is doing whatever it takes so he can come back home. I honestly do not want him back. It is so nice not having to lock my bedroom door at night, not having my son yelling at me and accusing me and his dad of doing stuff to him because of his delusions. It feels peaceful. And then I feel guilty, cuz’ my son does have a disease. The marchment act will not be the answer for him. Anybody else have any suggestions? I know my son will be home soon and I just don’t know what to do.
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Tippy, are forced meds an option where you live? @oldladyblue 's daughter’s life was turned around when a judge ordered that she must take meds. I wondered if that would work for your son? You wrote that he is cooperating and taking the meds at the treatment center so he can get released (Amador says that is a common learned behavior and often the other residents tip them off to it if they haven’t figured it out for themselves). Maybe if you could get a judge to order forced meds he would stay medicated to stay out of the treatment center or jail (which is often the option the judge offers)