Continuing the discussion from My son was friendly, funny and always had house full of friends:
As the title implies we both seem to be in a no win situation for either one of us at the moment. I did go to see him Tuesday evening. He actually looks better then he did when he was here. He has to be in the shelter at a certain time every night to keep his bed and has to be up every morning. They supply meals at meal times and he is eating. They have his meds and he is taking his Clozapine and Lithium at night as far as I know. He has showered. They have lots of support staff and counselling available including mental health but as is normal for my son he doesn’t want it. He is refusing to sign a release for his case worker at PACT to talk to the shelter. He doesn’t want to be a part of PACT anymore even though it’s through their pdoc that he is getting his prescriptions. His Clozapine isn’t covered by his disability so it’s PACT that made arrangements for it to be covered by the company that makes it and they pick it up for him from the hospital.
The bad part of all this is the neighborhood that the shelter is in. It’s bad. I’m not sure exactly what happened but he got mugged Monday. None of the details make sense. First I hear that he called the police because he tried to buy $500 worth of drugs and they didn’t come back with it. He did tell me he was trying to buy marijuana and cocaine but not with all of the money as he wanted to buy luxury items with the rest. Can’t say I was impressed with the fact that we barely had money for rent and he is talking about buying luxury items. He says they lured him in but when I try to get the details of what happened he can’t tell me how they lured him. He did manage to get/keep his ID which doesn’t make sense either. The staff have had a hard time talking to him and getting him to understand things yet I’m supposed to believe that he thought to ask for his ID back while getting mugged and they gave it to him… He told me he got robbed of $700. I guess they got his new cell phone that he just bought so I have been trying to figure out how to get that cancelled as he didn’t even know which service provider it was with. He said Rogers when it was Koodo. I called Koodo and got the account confirmed and information on how to cancel it and asked the shelter to help him with this because I know he can’t do it on his own. He was telling me how he got hit but there is no bruising or red marks or anything where he says he got hit. The shelter has or has read the police report and nothing adds up. He can’t bring drugs into the shelter so he had a spot picked out, outside, to hide it…
I did take him cigarettes and gave them to a staff member and asked them if they could just give him one pack a day as he will smoke two packs a day and I’m not supporting his two pack a day habit. He thinks disability is going to reissue his payment and seems to think they will also pay him the full amount for next month even though he isn’t paying board and lodgings here anymore… I think we may have to look into putting some sort of trustee in place as he can’t manage his own finances like this.
The shelter asked me yesterday if I was willing to do family counselling/mediation so that he could move back home. No I’m not willing to have more holes put into my apartment like the one he did last week punching a closet door. So the shelter is nicely trying to get me to take him back while his treatment team is telling me not to because they know that things will quickly escalate back to last week if I let him come back.
When I hugged him good-bye it was like hugging a board. No emotion whatsoever. I told him I won’t give him any money. He called his Nana for the first time since I gave the go ahead about 3 weeks ago and now she is all upset for him.
I’m going to try and see if we can get him moved to another shelter if it’s possible. The one we wanted didn’t have beds last week but maybe fingers crossed we can get him out of the environment that he is in and into one with less excess to drugs. I guess it will depend on whether he signs the release for PACT…
Sorry didn’t mean to ramble