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There is no helping this person. I remember your earlier posts and I know that you really want to help him and I don’t know if you remember me but I’m the one with the nut ball sister.
Yeah, if he’s threatening people with knives… I wouldn’t be worried about him. I’d be worried about those around him. From what I remember you saying he can obviously take care of himself. It isn’t like he’s being pushed around or beaten up. It sounds like he with straight up cut a dude.
I remember what you said about him being a manipulator too. My sister is like that and she isn’t antisocial (as far as I know). I think she’s just a bit of a narcissist. I’m going to share with you a huge chunk of wisdom my Aunt shared with me. Bear in mind she was a social worker at a hospital so she has seen some sh*t. YOU (as a non manipulator) ARE NEVER GOING TO WIN AGAINST A MANIPULATOR. I repeat YOU as a (non manipulator) ARE NEVER GOING TO WIN AGAINST A MANIPULATOR.
I would like to stress my Aunt was a social worker in a hospital. I’m pretty sure that means she has seen domestic abuse, child abuse, and all that other stuff where manipulation of the victim and those around them play a key factor in the perpetrator being able to keep their victim(s) in their power.
My sister has her hooks so deep into my mom I don’t even see claw anymore. Just flesh to flesh contact. If your brother gets a hold of you, your life is going to become hell. If you decide you want to get away from him your life is still going to be hell. Heck it might get even more hellish because he now sees you as having ‘wronged’ or ‘betrayed’ him.
You DON’T want your children around this person, and if you help him out guess who’s going to take advantage of that to come to lunch?
His problems are not because he has sz. I have sza (schizophrenia with bipolar) and trust me. I went through a suicidal hell for at least nineteen of my twenty four years. I am very sympathetic. I actually joined this site (instead of without an account, browsing which I did for a number of months) for exactly this reason. Exactly what you’re going through except on a much smaller scale.
There was a guy who joined on here that asked what he should do about his ex girlfriend who had left him to look for other guys. She had gone off her meds because she hated having all the extra weight she had gained from her particular med and that’s when she went haywire. I’m the first person to tell people to stay with them. Keep your distance but stay with them. Usually there is some weed involved in the situation and that makes them go full on nuts. My advice to them is always to get away from them until they stop weed and then come back because odds on it’s the weed. I tell them to tell their boyfriend/girlfriend they will be there for them when they decide to quit weed and see what happens then.
But it isn’t weed this time. It’s antisocial personality disorder.
I did some messed up crud to my now fiancée C when we started dating. I gave away the flowers he gave me, I asked if his sister was single, and this was because I was very sick. I was too sick to realize this was inappropriate. I was too sick to feel love, but I NEVER cut someone I was NEVER violent. I NEVER threatened him or tried to manipulate him. I’ve been there and done everything innocently hurtful (as in I didn’t realize I was hurting him because I was so sick) but I NEVER hurt him to hurt him. That’s what your brother is doing and that’s what he’s going to do to you. He LIKES hurting people.
One of my friends summarized it perfectly when she told me what she said to someone who wanted to be friends with someone who had border line personality disorder. “You are a little fish and they are a shark.”
We both know this. That’s why you are on here asking I think. You love him and want to help him but you are asking because in your heart you know that would be a huge mistake.